Summary
A person married for five years lost interest in sex about a year earlier, and medication has not helped. Their husband is understanding, but they worry about how long that patience will last.
The response acknowledges limited clinical knowledge of the cause and encourages reducing pressure around the change in desire.
It suggests seeing a therapist together to explore the difficulty and finding other mutually comfortable ways to express affection.
Shared time away from everyday demands is offered as one possible way to support closeness, without guaranteeing renewed interest.
Question
Reader · Identity withheldMy husband and I have been married for 5 yrs. We had a good sex life until about a year ago, when I just all of a sudden lost interest.
My doctor put me on some medication but so far it hasn't helped me.
My husband is being very understanding but for how long?
Answer
Ann LandersI happen to feel that if you and your husband truly love each other and your intimacy spans more than just sexual intercourse, you should both be able to get through this lull in your sex drive. Clinically, I am not well-versed in the reasons for your loss of interest, however, I can suggest that you not stress yourself out about it. The concern you are placing on your situation could actually be a cause for your behavior.
You might also discuss seeking professional help through a therapist that you and your husband would agree upon seeing. He or she may be able suggest new approaches to love-making or help you explore the reasons for your loss of interest. In the meantime, try to be sensitive to your husbands needs.
If you are completely disinterested in sexual intercourse, there are other ways to express your love. Think about giving your husband a relaxing massage, or plan a romantic getaway or an evening out on the town to possibly spark some interest. Quite possibly, you may need a break from the rigors, stresses, and time constraints of everyday life. Let yourself relax and let things happen as they come.
Hope this helps,
– Anne
