{"formatVersion":"1.1","id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/library/contemplating-divorce","path":"/library/contemplating-divorce","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/library/contemplating-divorce","title":"Thinking About Divorce","family":"Library detail","description":"Questions to help you decide on divorce. Reflect on your relationship and seek professional support.","language":"en-US","access":{"audience":"custom-shared-preview","indexable":true},"provenance":{"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/library/contemplating-divorce","wordpressId":"4660","contentCompleteness":"complete","dateScope":"original-source"},"authors":[{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/mandy-kloppers#person","name":"Mandy Kloppers","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/mandy-kloppers"}],"dates":{"datePublished":"2013-07-30T04:00:00Z","dateModified":"2025-08-28T04:50:38Z"},"content":{"html":"<nav class=\"breadcrumbs\" aria-label=\"Breadcrumb\"><ol><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/\">Home</a></li><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/library\">Library</a></li><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/library/marriage\">Marriage</a></li><li><span aria-current=\"page\">Thinking About Divorce</span></li></ol></nav><div class=\"article-page article-standard\" data-library-standard><div class=\"article-main-grid\"><header class=\"article-heading\"><h1>Thinking About Divorce</h1><p class=\"article-inline-credits\">Written by <a class=\"article-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/mandy-kloppers\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9425.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"22\" height=\"22\" loading=\"lazy\">Mandy Kloppers</a></p><div class=\"article-dates\"><span>Published on <time datetime=\"2013-07-30T04:00:00Z\">July 30, 2013</time></span><span aria-hidden=\"true\"> · </span><span>Updated on <time datetime=\"2025-08-28T04:50:38Z\">August 28, 2025</time></span></div></header><div class=\"article-jumpbar\"></div><div class=\"article-layout\"><div class=\"article-reading\"><article class=\"prose\" id=\"article-content\"><p>Thinking about getting a divorce is a huge step and one of the most stressful life experiences that you can go through. According to <a href=\"http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holmes_and_Rahe_stress_scale?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=libra&amp;utm_content=external_resource&amp;utm_id=site-library-contemplating-divorce&amp;utm_source=mentalhealth.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" class=\"article-inline-link\">Holmes and Rahe’s stress scale</a>, divorce is the second most stressful life event after the death of a spouse.</p><figure class=\"article-feature\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-3536.webp\" alt=\"An older couple shares a laugh outdoors.\" width=\"1200\" height=\"630\" loading=\"eager\" decoding=\"async\"></figure><section class=\"article-takeaways\" aria-labelledby=\"key-takeaways\"><h2 id=\"key-takeaways\">Key takeaways</h2><ul><li>Considering divorce can involve significant stress and uncertainty about a relationship’s future.</li><li>Reflective writing about current feelings, relationship needs, and desired life circumstances can clarify personal priorities.</li><li>A questionnaire alone is insufficient grounds for divorce, and further reflection or supportive conversation can help process the decision.</li></ul></section><h2 id=\"overview\">Overview</h2><p>So, how do you know whether you should go for it or not?</p><p>I have put together a few questions to consider which might help you reach the right decision. Answer honestly, write down your first thought and don’t think too long about each question:</p><p>1. Did you love your partner when you were first married?</p><p>2. Why did you get married?</p><p>3. Do you love your spouse now?</p><p>4. Why are you still married?</p><p>5. How do you and your partner get along?</p><p>6. What do you and your spouse have in common?</p><p>7. What do you like most about your partner?</p><p>8. What do you like least about him or her?</p><p>9. How does your spouse treat you?</p><p>10. How would you like to be treated?</p><p>11. How do you treat him or her?</p><p>12. When were you happiest in this marriage, and why?</p><p>13. Are you happy in this relationship right now?</p><p>14. What would you like to change or improve in this marriage?</p><p>15. Do you think it’s possible to improve your marriage? Why or why not?</p><p>16. What have you done personally to make your relationship better?</p><p>17. What are your greatest fears about staying married?</p><p>18. What are your greatest fears about divorcing?</p><p>19. Do you have children? What role do they play in your choice?</p><p>20. Overall, what does your gut, or intuition, tell you to do about your marriage?</p><p>Do any of your answers surprise you? What is your overall realization? Write one sentence to express what you’re feeling and thinking.</p><p>When facing a confusing or challenging issue, it often helps to write down feelings and ideas quickly without stopping to edit or question them. This keeps the unconscious mind moving and your beliefs surfacing. Use this technique in the following exercises to discover your deepest thoughts and feelings.</p><p>Begin with the expression “I feel..” and if you get stuck, write “I feel…” again and keep writing. Don’t censor yourself or edit your work. Just be totally honest. Stop when you feel complete or finished with the issue.</p><p>1. What do I feel about my current relationship and partner?</p><p>In questions two and three, begin with the words “I want” and write fast. If you pause or get stuck, just write “I want” and begin again. Don’t worry about practicality or reality. Imagine that you have all the choices and resources you need. Just write your heart’s desire about the relationship and the life you want. End when it feels complete.</p><p>2. What do I want in a relationship?</p><p>3. Ideally, what kind of life do I want to be living?</p><p>Reading your words becomes a concrete confirmation that you are beginning to make a decision that is completely your own. This discovery can be exhilarating, and at the same time, frightening. Everything you have thought to be true may now be in question. Allow these feelings to surface before, during, and after writing in your journal. Notice if your existing marriage has the qualities you listed for an ideal relationship, or if it does not. Take in this realization.</p><p>Finally, is it possible for you and your partner to change, for the relationship to come closer to what you want? Write your immediate response of “yes” or “no”. Then write quickly how this can or cannot happen.</p><p>When finished, reread your response. How are you doing emotionally? Be aware of your feelings. Perhaps take a break. Lie down, have some tea, go for a walk, do whatever would be supportive right now. Let the realizations come and go. It may help to say phrases such as, “Everything I’m discovering is creating my greatest good. I trust my inner voice and know all is well.”</p><p>If your answers to these questions indicate there are problems in your marriage, and even that you want a separation or divorce, you may not want to take immediate action. It isn’t rational to initiate a divorce based on one questionnaire. What you can do, however, is think about your responses, keep writing, take the survey again, and see how you feel in a week or two. In the meantime, you can also talk with a therapist, a friend, or colleague, someone who is going to listen attentively to you. It helps to process all your realizations in writing or verbally, and fully express your truthful feelings.</p><p>\nRecommended reading: Conscious Divorce, Susan Allison\n</p></article><div class=\"article-endmatter\"><section class=\"article-about article-panel\"><h2 id=\"about-mentalhealth-com\">About MentalHealth.com</h2><p>MentalHealth.com helps people understand themselves, build healthier relationships, and access the right care. We bring together mental health education, diagnostics, and care management to support well-being throughout every phase of life.</p><div class=\"article-contributors\"><section class=\"article-bio\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9425.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"><div><p class=\"article-bio-role\">Author</p><h3 id=\"mandy-kloppers\"><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/mandy-kloppers\">Mandy Kloppers</a></h3><p class=\"article-bio-credentials\">Writer</p><p>Mandy Kloppers has been working in the mental health field for more than eight years and has worked with a diverse group of clients, including people with learning disabilities, the elderly suffering from dementia, and mentally ill patients detained in medium and high-secure units.</p><dl><div><dt>Published</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2013-07-30T04:00:00Z\">July 30, 2013</time></dd></div><div><dt>Updated</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-08-28T04:50:38Z\">August 28, 2025</time></dd></div></dl></div></section></div></section><section class=\"article-medical article-panel article-pending\" role=\"note\" aria-label=\"Pending medical review\"><h2 id=\"medical-review-status\">Pending Medical Review</h2><p>We take mental health content seriously and follow industry-leading guidelines to ensure our users access the highest quality information. All editorial decisions for published content are made by the MentalHealth.com Editorial Team, with guidance from our Clinical Affairs Team.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/publishing/editorial-policy\">Our medical review process</a></section><section class=\"article-expert article-expert-mobile\" aria-label=\"Subject matter expert\" data-expert-kind=\"related\"><p class=\"article-bio-role\">Subject matter expert</p><div class=\"article-expert-identity\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9366.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/dana-vince\">Dana Vince</a></h2></div><p class=\"article-expert-focus\">Relationships and marriage counseling</p><a class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/dana-vince\">View experience</a></section><section class=\"article-topic-community article-topic-community-mobile\" aria-label=\"Related communities\"><img class=\"topic-community-banner\" src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-10366.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"48\" height=\"48\" loading=\"lazy\"><p class=\"topic-community-label\">Related communities</p><h2>Marriage</h2><p>A space for perspectives on partnership, communication, and the changing experiences of married life.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/community/marriage\">Explore community</a></section></div></div><aside class=\"article-sidebar\" tabindex=\"0\" data-bounded-rail=\"\" aria-label=\"Article navigation and related information\"><details class=\"article-contents\" open data-section-preview=\"3\" data-expanded=\"false\" data-scrolled-past=\"false\"><summary><strong>Table of contents</strong><span aria-hidden=\"true\"></span><small data-current-section=\"\">Choose a section</small></summary><nav aria-label=\"Article contents\"><ol id=\"article-section-list\"><li><a href=\"#overview\" title=\"Overview\" aria-label=\"Overview\">Overview</a></li></ol><button type=\"button\" class=\"article-sections-toggle\" data-sections-toggle aria-controls=\"article-section-list\" aria-expanded=\"false\" hidden=\"\">View more</button></nav></details><section class=\"article-expert\" aria-label=\"Subject matter expert\" data-expert-kind=\"related\"><p class=\"article-bio-role\">Subject matter expert</p><div class=\"article-expert-identity\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9366.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/dana-vince\">Dana Vince</a></h2></div><p class=\"article-expert-focus\">Relationships and marriage counseling</p><a class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/dana-vince\">View experience</a></section><section class=\"article-topic-community\" aria-label=\"Related communities\"><img class=\"topic-community-banner\" src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-10366.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"48\" height=\"48\" loading=\"lazy\"><p class=\"topic-community-label\">Related communities</p><h2>Marriage</h2><p>A space for perspectives on partnership, communication, and the changing experiences of married life.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/community/marriage\">Explore community</a></section></aside></div></div></div>","text":"HomeLibraryMarriageThinking About DivorceThinking About DivorceWritten by Mandy KloppersPublished on July 30, 2013 · Updated on August 28, 2025Thinking about getting a divorce is a huge step and one of the most stressful life experiences that you can go through. According to Holmes and Rahe’s stress scale, divorce is the second most stressful life event after the death of a spouse.Key takeawaysConsidering divorce can involve significant stress and uncertainty about a relationship’s future.Reflective writing about current feelings, relationship needs, and desired life circumstances can clarify personal priorities.A questionnaire alone is insufficient grounds for divorce, and further reflection or supportive conversation can help process the decision.OverviewSo, how do you know whether you should go for it or not?I have put together a few questions to consider which might help you reach the right decision. Answer honestly, write down your first thought and don’t think too long about each question:1. Did you love your partner when you were first married?2. Why did you get married?3. Do you love your spouse now?4. Why are you still married?5. How do you and your partner get along?6. What do you and your spouse have in common?7. What do you like most about your partner?8. What do you like least about him or her?9. How does your spouse treat you?10. How would you like to be treated?11. How do you treat him or her?12. When were you happiest in this marriage, and why?13. Are you happy in this relationship right now?14. What would you like to change or improve in this marriage?15. Do you think it’s possible to improve your marriage? Why or why not?16. What have you done personally to make your relationship better?17. What are your greatest fears about staying married?18. What are your greatest fears about divorcing?19. Do you have children? What role do they play in your choice?20. Overall, what does your gut, or intuition, tell you to do about your marriage?Do any of your answers surprise you? What is your overall realization? Write one sentence to express what you’re feeling and thinking.When facing a confusing or challenging issue, it often helps to write down feelings and ideas quickly without stopping to edit or question them. This keeps the unconscious mind moving and your beliefs surfacing. Use this technique in the following exercises to discover your deepest thoughts and feelings.Begin with the expression “I feel..” and if you get stuck, write “I feel…” again and keep writing. Don’t censor yourself or edit your work. Just be totally honest. Stop when you feel complete or finished with the issue.1. What do I feel about my current relationship and partner?In questions two and three, begin with the words “I want” and write fast. If you pause or get stuck, just write “I want” and begin again. Don’t worry about practicality or reality. Imagine that you have all the choices and resources you need. Just write your heart’s desire about the relationship and the life you want. End when it feels complete.2. What do I want in a relationship?3. Ideally, what kind of life do I want to be living?Reading your words becomes a concrete confirmation that you are beginning to make a decision that is completely your own. This discovery can be exhilarating, and at the same time, frightening. Everything you have thought to be true may now be in question. Allow these feelings to surface before, during, and after writing in your journal. Notice if your existing marriage has the qualities you listed for an ideal relationship, or if it does not. Take in this realization.Finally, is it possible for you and your partner to change, for the relationship to come closer to what you want? Write your immediate response of “yes” or “no”. Then write quickly how this can or cannot happen.When finished, reread your response. How are you doing emotionally? Be aware of your feelings. Perhaps take a break. Lie down, have some tea, go for a walk, do whatever would be supportive right now. Let the realizations come and go. It may help to say phrases such as, “Everything I’m discovering is creating my greatest good. I trust my inner voice and know all is well.”If your answers to these questions indicate there are problems in your marriage, and even that you want a separation or divorce, you may not want to take immediate action. It isn’t rational to initiate a divorce based on one questionnaire. What you can do, however, is think about your responses, keep writing, take the survey again, and see how you feel in a week or two. In the meantime, you can also talk with a therapist, a friend, or colleague, someone who is going to listen attentively to you. It helps to process all your realizations in writing or verbally, and fully express your truthful feelings. Recommended reading: Conscious Divorce, Susan Allison About MentalHealth.comMentalHealth.com helps people understand themselves, build healthier relationships, and access the right care. We bring together mental health education, diagnostics, and care management to support well-being throughout every phase of life.AuthorMandy KloppersWriterMandy Kloppers has been working in the mental health field for more than eight years and has worked with a diverse group of clients, including people with learning disabilities, the elderly suffering from dementia, and mentally ill patients detained in medium and high-secure units.PublishedJuly 30, 2013UpdatedAugust 28, 2025Pending Medical ReviewWe take mental health content seriously and follow industry-leading guidelines to ensure our users access the highest quality information. 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