{"formatVersion":"1.1","id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers","path":"/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers","title":"Why is he so jealous?","family":"Answers detail","description":"A woman is frightened by a new boyfriend's controlling jealousy, including accusations involving her brothers.","language":"en-US","access":{"audience":"custom-shared-preview","indexable":true},"provenance":{"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers","wordpressId":"6329","contentCompleteness":"complete","dateScope":"original-source"},"authors":[{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz#person","name":"Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz"}],"reviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"dates":{"datePublished":"2024-06-01T00:35:17Z","dateModified":"2026-06-05T09:17:33Z","lastReviewed":"2025-09-15"},"content":{"html":"<nav class=\"breadcrumbs\" aria-label=\"Breadcrumb\"><ol><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/\">Home</a></li><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a></li><li><span aria-current=\"page\">Why is he so jealous?</span></li></ol></nav><div class=\"article-page answer-page\" data-answer-template=\"conversation\"><header class=\"answer-heading article-heading\"><a class=\"answer-back\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a><h1>Why is he so jealous?</h1><div class=\"answer-credits\"><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9429.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Written by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.</span></span></a><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Medically reviewed by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</span></span></a></div><dl class=\"answer-heading-dates\"><div><dt>Published</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2024-06-01T00:35:17Z\">June 1, 2024</time></dd></div><div><dt>Updated</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2026-06-05T09:17:33Z\">June 5, 2026</time></dd></div><div><dt>Reviewed</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-09-15\">September 15, 2025</time></dd></div></dl></header><nav class=\"answer-nav\" aria-label=\"Answer navigation\"><a href=\"#summary\">Summary</a><a href=\"#question\">Question</a><a href=\"#answer\">Answer</a></nav><article class=\"prose\" id=\"article-content\" data-answer-thread aria-label=\"Reader question and professional response\"><section class=\"answer-overview\" id=\"summary\" aria-labelledby=\"summary-title\"><h2 id=\"summary-title\">Summary</h2><figure class=\"answer-question-image\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers-20261003.webp\" alt=\"Two women walking an open coastal trail.\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" fetchpriority=\"high\"></figure><p>A woman is frightened by a new boyfriend's controlling jealousy, including accusations involving her brothers. Having recently left an abusive long relationship, she worries about repeating the same pattern and asks whether to continue.</p><p>The response identifies the jealousy as controlling and gives the writer's opinion that ending this relationship would be preferable.</p><p>It also suggests psychotherapy to explore recurring relationship patterns and strengthen future choices, while its speculation about childhood influences is not established by the reader's account.</p></section><div class=\"answer-originals\" id=\"original-conversation\"><div class=\"answer-originals-body\"><section class=\"answer-post answer-question\" id=\"question\" aria-labelledby=\"question-person\"><div class=\"answer-avatar answer-reader\" aria-hidden=\"true\">?</div><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"question-person\">Question</h2><span>Reader · Identity withheld</span></header><p>How long have you been together? 8 months</p>\n<p>What is your age range? 20/25</p>\n<p>Please share your story:</p>\n<p>My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and everything was good in the beginning. Then, slowly, I started seeing how fast he got angry and how jealous he was. I thought it was cute until it started becoming a controlling issue. He started accusing my own brother of checking me out and how I must like it. </p>\n<p>My brothers and I are really close so we joke around and make fun of each other. But he is like obsessive and it scares me because I jut got out of a 9 year relationship with an abusive man and we had the same problems.</p>\n<p>What should I do?</p>\n<p>Is it me? I feel like I will never be happy..</p>\n<p>Please help me! Should I continue in this relationship?</p></div></section><section class=\"answer-post answer-response\" id=\"answer\" aria-labelledby=\"response-person\"><a class=\"answer-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\" aria-label=\"View Allan Schwartz, Ph.D. profile\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9429.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"44\" height=\"44\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"response-person\">Answer</h2><span>Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.</span></header><p>You are accurate when you state that your boyfriend’s jealousy is a controlling issue. </p>\n<p>He wants all of your attention focused on himself and feels that you are outside of his control if you spend time with anyone else. Many times jealousy has to do with feeling insecure. Basically, he fears that you like your brothers and other people more than you like him. </p>\n<p>There is no way you will convince him otherwise. In my opinion, this is why you would be better off ending this relationship. You are correct. You will never be happy with this man because he will always try to control you, at least that is how I “see it.”</p>\n<p>However, the issue is deeper for you because you report that, in an earlier relationship, the same issuess appeared. Why does this keep happening to you?</p>\n<p>It is common for all of us to repeat past problems in an effort to find solutions. Past problems most often refer back to when we were growing up. Perhaps your father or mother was jealous of each other. Perhaps you experienced or witnessed some other problems in your family and those problems are being repeated as exemplified by the types of men you choose.</p>\n<p>My suggestion is that you enter psychotherapy in order to learn how to avoid the same pattern of behaviors that have recently plagued you.</p>\n<p>Best of Luck</p></div></section></div></div></article><div class=\"answer-endmatter\"><section class=\"article-expert answer-expert-card\" aria-label=\"Subject matter expert\" data-expert-kind=\"related\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\" tabindex=\"-1\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/13152.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-expert-copy\"><p class=\"article-bio-role\">Subject matter expert</p><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\">Carlos Protzel <span class=\"expert-credentials\">Psy.D.</span></a></h2><p class=\"article-expert-focus\">Integrative mental health care</p><a class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"article-topic-community\" aria-label=\"Related communities\"><img class=\"topic-community-banner\" src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-17221.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"48\" height=\"48\" loading=\"lazy\"><p class=\"topic-community-label\">Related communities</p><h2>Relationships</h2><p>Connect around communication, closeness, boundaries, and the relationships that matter to you.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/community/relationships\">Explore community</a></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9429.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Author</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\">Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.</a></h2><p>Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D., is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 30 years of private practice experience.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Medical reviewer</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</a></h2><p>Jesse Hanson, Ph.D., is a clinical and somatic psychologist with over 20 years of experience in neuropsychology, specializing in integrative, mind-body…</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-related\"><h2>Related questions</h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/jealous-of-her-male-friends\">Why am I so jealous of her male friends?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/jealous-girlfriend\">How do I deal with a jealous girlfriend?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/insanely-jealous-husband\">How do I cope with a husband who is insanely jealous?</a></section></div></div>","text":"HomeAnswersWhy is he so jealous?AnswersWhy is he so jealous?Written byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.Medically reviewed byJesse Hanson, Ph.D.PublishedJune 1, 2024UpdatedJune 5, 2026ReviewedSeptember 15, 2025SummaryQuestionAnswerSummaryA woman is frightened by a new boyfriend's controlling jealousy, including accusations involving her brothers. Having recently left an abusive long relationship, she worries about repeating the same pattern and asks whether to continue.The response identifies the jealousy as controlling and gives the writer's opinion that ending this relationship would be preferable.It also suggests psychotherapy to explore recurring relationship patterns and strengthen future choices, while its speculation about childhood influences is not established by the reader's account.?QuestionReader · Identity withheldHow long have you been together? 8 months What is your age range? 20/25 Please share your story: My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and everything was good in the beginning. Then, slowly, I started seeing how fast he got angry and how jealous he was. I thought it was cute until it started becoming a controlling issue. He started accusing my own brother of checking me out and how I must like it. My brothers and I are really close so we joke around and make fun of each other. But he is like obsessive and it scares me because I jut got out of a 9 year relationship with an abusive man and we had the same problems. What should I do? Is it me? I feel like I will never be happy.. Please help me! Should I continue in this relationship?AnswerAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.You are accurate when you state that your boyfriend’s jealousy is a controlling issue. He wants all of your attention focused on himself and feels that you are outside of his control if you spend time with anyone else. Many times jealousy has to do with feeling insecure. Basically, he fears that you like your brothers and other people more than you like him. There is no way you will convince him otherwise. In my opinion, this is why you would be better off ending this relationship. You are correct. 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Then, slowly, I started seeing how fast he got angry and how jealous he was. I thought it was cute until it started becoming a controlling issue. He started accusing my own brother of checking me out and how I must like it. My brothers and I are really close so we joke around and make fun of each other. But he is like obsessive and it scares me because I jut got out of a 9 year relationship with an abusive man and we had the same problems. What should I do? Is it me? I feel like I will never be happy.. Please help me! Should I continue in this relationship?","acceptedAnswer":{"@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers#answer"},"inLanguage":"en-US","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers#question","answerCount":1},{"@type":"Answer","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers#answer","text":"You are accurate when you state that your boyfriend’s jealousy is a controlling issue. He wants all of your attention focused on himself and feels that you are outside of his control if you spend time with anyone else. Many times jealousy has to do with feeling insecure. Basically, he fears that you like your brothers and other people more than you like him. There is no way you will convince him otherwise. In my opinion, this is why you would be better off ending this relationship. You are correct. 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Having recently left an abusive long relationship, she worries about repeating the same pattern and asks whether to continue.","answer":"The response identifies the jealousy as controlling and gives the writer's opinion that ending this relationship would be preferable. It also suggests psychotherapy to explore recurring relationship patterns and strengthen future choices, while its speculation about childhood influences is not established by the reader's account."},"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers","sourceReviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"question":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers#question","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers#question","html":"<p>How long have you been together? 8 months</p>\n<p>What is your age range? 20/25</p>\n<p>Please share your story:</p>\n<p>My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and everything was good in the beginning. Then, slowly, I started seeing how fast he got angry and how jealous he was. I thought it was cute until it started becoming a controlling issue. He started accusing my own brother of checking me out and how I must like it. </p>\n<p>My brothers and I are really close so we joke around and make fun of each other. But he is like obsessive and it scares me because I jut got out of a 9 year relationship with an abusive man and we had the same problems.</p>\n<p>What should I do?</p>\n<p>Is it me? I feel like I will never be happy..</p>\n<p>Please help me! Should I continue in this relationship?</p>","text":"How long have you been together? 8 months What is your age range? 20/25 Please share your story: My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and everything was good in the beginning. Then, slowly, I started seeing how fast he got angry and how jealous he was. I thought it was cute until it started becoming a controlling issue. He started accusing my own brother of checking me out and how I must like it. My brothers and I are really close so we joke around and make fun of each other. But he is like obsessive and it scares me because I jut got out of a 9 year relationship with an abusive man and we had the same problems. What should I do? Is it me? I feel like I will never be happy.. Please help me! Should I continue in this relationship?"},"answer":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers#answer","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers#answer","html":"<p>You are accurate when you state that your boyfriend’s jealousy is a controlling issue. </p>\n<p>He wants all of your attention focused on himself and feels that you are outside of his control if you spend time with anyone else. Many times jealousy has to do with feeling insecure. Basically, he fears that you like your brothers and other people more than you like him. </p>\n<p>There is no way you will convince him otherwise. In my opinion, this is why you would be better off ending this relationship. You are correct. You will never be happy with this man because he will always try to control you, at least that is how I “see it.”</p>\n<p>However, the issue is deeper for you because you report that, in an earlier relationship, the same issuess appeared. Why does this keep happening to you?</p>\n<p>It is common for all of us to repeat past problems in an effort to find solutions. Past problems most often refer back to when we were growing up. Perhaps your father or mother was jealous of each other. Perhaps you experienced or witnessed some other problems in your family and those problems are being repeated as exemplified by the types of men you choose.</p>\n<p>My suggestion is that you enter psychotherapy in order to learn how to avoid the same pattern of behaviors that have recently plagued you.</p>\n<p>Best of Luck</p>","text":"You are accurate when you state that your boyfriend’s jealousy is a controlling issue. He wants all of your attention focused on himself and feels that you are outside of his control if you spend time with anyone else. Many times jealousy has to do with feeling insecure. Basically, he fears that you like your brothers and other people more than you like him. There is no way you will convince him otherwise. In my opinion, this is why you would be better off ending this relationship. You are correct. You will never be happy with this man because he will always try to control you, at least that is how I “see it.” However, the issue is deeper for you because you report that, in an earlier relationship, the same issuess appeared. Why does this keep happening to you? It is common for all of us to repeat past problems in an effort to find solutions. Past problems most often refer back to when we were growing up. Perhaps your father or mother was jealous of each other. Perhaps you experienced or witnessed some other problems in your family and those problems are being repeated as exemplified by the types of men you choose. My suggestion is that you enter psychotherapy in order to learn how to avoid the same pattern of behaviors that have recently plagued you. 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