{"formatVersion":"1.1","id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos","path":"/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos","title":"Why does my boyfriend still have photos of his ex?","family":"Answers detail","description":"A reader feels uncomfortable that a boyfriend keeps affectionate photographs from a past relationship.","language":"en-US","access":{"audience":"custom-shared-preview","indexable":true},"provenance":{"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos","wordpressId":"6222","contentCompleteness":"complete","dateScope":"original-source"},"authors":[{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz#person","name":"Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz"}],"reviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"dates":{"datePublished":"2025-05-10T10:40:50Z","dateModified":"2025-09-07T06:36:55Z","lastReviewed":"2025-09-15"},"content":{"html":"<nav class=\"breadcrumbs\" aria-label=\"Breadcrumb\"><ol><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/\">Home</a></li><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a></li><li><span aria-current=\"page\">Why does my boyfriend still have photos of his ex?</span></li></ol></nav><div class=\"article-page answer-page\" data-answer-template=\"conversation\"><header class=\"answer-heading article-heading\"><a class=\"answer-back\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a><h1>Why does my boyfriend still have photos of his ex?</h1><div class=\"answer-credits\"><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9429.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Written by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.</span></span></a><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Medically reviewed by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</span></span></a></div><dl class=\"answer-heading-dates\"><div><dt>Published</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-05-10T10:40:50Z\">May 10, 2025</time></dd></div><div><dt>Updated</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-09-07T06:36:55Z\">September 7, 2025</time></dd></div><div><dt>Reviewed</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-09-15\">September 15, 2025</time></dd></div></dl></header><nav class=\"answer-nav\" aria-label=\"Answer navigation\"><a href=\"#summary\">Summary</a><a href=\"#question\">Question</a><a href=\"#answer\">Answer</a></nav><article class=\"prose\" id=\"article-content\" data-answer-thread aria-label=\"Reader question and professional response\"><section class=\"answer-overview\" id=\"summary\" aria-labelledby=\"summary-title\"><h2 id=\"summary-title\">Summary</h2><figure class=\"answer-question-image\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos-20261003.webp\" alt=\"A closed photo album rests beside a green branch.\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" fetchpriority=\"high\"></figure><p>A reader feels uncomfortable that a boyfriend keeps affectionate photographs from a past relationship. He describes them as memories and says he no longer has feelings for his ex.</p><p>The response validates the reader’s discomfort and interprets holding onto the photographs as a possible sign of unfinished feelings, without establishing the boyfriend’s actual motives.</p><p>It expresses the writer’s view that the reader may need to set a firm relationship boundary if the disagreement prevents them from feeling secure.</p></section><div class=\"answer-originals\" id=\"original-conversation\"><div class=\"answer-originals-body\"><section class=\"answer-post answer-question\" id=\"question\" aria-labelledby=\"question-person\"><div class=\"answer-avatar answer-reader\" aria-hidden=\"true\">?</div><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"question-person\">Question</h2><span>Reader · Identity withheld</span></header><p>I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over three years. He still keeps photos of his ex and refuses to delete them. They were together for five years. He says he doesn’t have any feelings for her anymore and that the pictures are just memories from his past. He says they matter to him and maybe, 20 years from now, we can look at them together and laugh.</p>\n<p>He promises I’ll never have to see them, but I still don’t understand why he wants to keep photos where they are hugging, kissing, or holding each other. I’ve told him how uncomfortable it makes me feel, but he doesn’t think it’s a big deal.</p>\n<p>I’m struggling with this. Please help me understand what I should do.</p></div></section><section class=\"answer-post answer-response\" id=\"answer\" aria-labelledby=\"response-person\"><a class=\"answer-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\" aria-label=\"View Allan Schwartz, Ph.D. profile\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9429.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"44\" height=\"44\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"response-person\">Answer</h2><span>Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.</span></header><p>To be honest, I cannot understand it either. I do know that you are not alone with this problem. Some people actually keep in touch with their ex lovers through facebook, telephone and even meeting together. <a href=\"https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30744152/?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=libra&amp;utm_content=external_resource&amp;utm_id=site-answers-my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos&amp;utm_source=mentalhealth.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" class=\"article-inline-link\">Research shows that these behaviors weaken relationships</a> and lead to their destruction.</p>\n<p>What you need to understand is that there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone has past relationships. However, for lovers to feel confidence and trust in one another, they need to know that the past is over and done. How can you feel confident about your boyfriend if he holds onto photos of his ex girlfriend? You cannot.</p>\n<p>Sometimes people keep old photos or maintain contact with their ex <a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/library/relationship-challenges\" class=\"article-inline-link\">because they are unhappy with their present lover</a>. It’s usually the most recent ex that attracts their attention. There is an old saying that you should never get involved with someone who is rebounding from a failed relationship. Other times, people cannot let go of the feelings they had for their previous lover. This does not bode well for the success of the next relationship.</p>\n<p>Painful as this might be, you may have to give your boyfriend the choice of you or the pictures. I doubt that you will ever look back on the photos in the future with a laugh. It’s not a laughing matter.</p></div></section></div></div></article><div class=\"answer-endmatter\"><section class=\"article-expert answer-expert-card\" aria-label=\"Subject matter expert\" data-expert-kind=\"related\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\" tabindex=\"-1\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/13152.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-expert-copy\"><p class=\"article-bio-role\">Subject matter expert</p><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\">Carlos Protzel <span class=\"expert-credentials\">Psy.D.</span></a></h2><p class=\"article-expert-focus\">Integrative mental health care</p><a class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"article-topic-community\" aria-label=\"Related communities\"><img class=\"topic-community-banner\" src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-17221.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"48\" height=\"48\" loading=\"lazy\"><p class=\"topic-community-label\">Related communities</p><h2>Relationships</h2><p>Connect around communication, closeness, boundaries, and the relationships that matter to you.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/community/relationships\">Explore community</a></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9429.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Author</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\">Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.</a></h2><p>Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D., is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 30 years of private practice experience.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Medical reviewer</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</a></h2><p>Jesse Hanson, Ph.D., is a clinical and somatic psychologist with over 20 years of experience in neuropsychology, specializing in integrative, mind-body…</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-related\"><h2>Related questions</h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/my-boyfriend-saved-pictures-of-his-ex-girlfriend-on-his-computer\">Why does my boyfriend still have pictures of his ex-girlfriend?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/will-my-boyfriend-eventually-hit-me\">Will my boyfriend eventually hit me?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/wife-of-21-years-has-a-boyfriend\">Why does my wife of 21 years have a boyfriend?</a></section></div></div>","text":"HomeAnswersWhy does my boyfriend still have photos of his ex?AnswersWhy does my boyfriend still have photos of his ex?Written byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.Medically reviewed byJesse Hanson, Ph.D.PublishedMay 10, 2025UpdatedSeptember 7, 2025ReviewedSeptember 15, 2025SummaryQuestionAnswerSummaryA reader feels uncomfortable that a boyfriend keeps affectionate photographs from a past relationship. He describes them as memories and says he no longer has feelings for his ex.The response validates the reader’s discomfort and interprets holding onto the photographs as a possible sign of unfinished feelings, without establishing the boyfriend’s actual motives.It expresses the writer’s view that the reader may need to set a firm relationship boundary if the disagreement prevents them from feeling secure.?QuestionReader · Identity withheldI’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over three years. He still keeps photos of his ex and refuses to delete them. They were together for five years. He says he doesn’t have any feelings for her anymore and that the pictures are just memories from his past. He says they matter to him and maybe, 20 years from now, we can look at them together and laugh. He promises I’ll never have to see them, but I still don’t understand why he wants to keep photos where they are hugging, kissing, or holding each other. I’ve told him how uncomfortable it makes me feel, but he doesn’t think it’s a big deal. I’m struggling with this. Please help me understand what I should do.AnswerAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.To be honest, I cannot understand it either. I do know that you are not alone with this problem. Some people actually keep in touch with their ex lovers through facebook, telephone and even meeting together. Research shows that these behaviors weaken relationships and lead to their destruction. What you need to understand is that there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone has past relationships. However, for lovers to feel confidence and trust in one another, they need to know that the past is over and done. How can you feel confident about your boyfriend if he holds onto photos of his ex girlfriend? You cannot. Sometimes people keep old photos or maintain contact with their ex because they are unhappy with their present lover. It’s usually the most recent ex that attracts their attention. There is an old saying that you should never get involved with someone who is rebounding from a failed relationship. Other times, people cannot let go of the feelings they had for their previous lover. This does not bode well for the success of the next relationship. Painful as this might be, you may have to give your boyfriend the choice of you or the pictures. I doubt that you will ever look back on the photos in the future with a laugh. 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from a past relationship. He describes them as memories and says he no longer has feelings for his ex.","answer":"The response validates the reader’s discomfort and interprets holding onto the photographs as a possible sign of unfinished feelings, without establishing the boyfriend’s actual motives. It expresses the writer’s view that the reader may need to set a firm relationship boundary if the disagreement prevents them from feeling secure."},"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos","sourceReviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"question":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos#question","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos#question","html":"<p>I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over three years. He still keeps photos of his ex and refuses to delete them. They were together for five years. He says he doesn’t have any feelings for her anymore and that the pictures are just memories from his past. He says they matter to him and maybe, 20 years from now, we can look at them together and laugh.</p>\n<p>He promises I’ll never have to see them, but I still don’t understand why he wants to keep photos where they are hugging, kissing, or holding each other. I’ve told him how uncomfortable it makes me feel, but he doesn’t think it’s a big deal.</p>\n<p>I’m struggling with this. Please help me understand what I should do.</p>","text":"I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over three years. He still keeps photos of his ex and refuses to delete them. They were together for five years. He says he doesn’t have any feelings for her anymore and that the pictures are just memories from his past. He says they matter to him and maybe, 20 years from now, we can look at them together and laugh. He promises I’ll never have to see them, but I still don’t understand why he wants to keep photos where they are hugging, kissing, or holding each other. I’ve told him how uncomfortable it makes me feel, but he doesn’t think it’s a big deal. I’m struggling with this. Please help me understand what I should do."},"answer":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos#answer","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos#answer","html":"<p>To be honest, I cannot understand it either. I do know that you are not alone with this problem. Some people actually keep in touch with their ex lovers through facebook, telephone and even meeting together. <a href=\"https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30744152/?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=libra&amp;utm_content=external_resource&amp;utm_id=site-answers-my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos&amp;utm_source=mentalhealth.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">Research shows that these behaviors weaken relationships</a> and lead to their destruction.</p>\n<p>What you need to understand is that there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone has past relationships. However, for lovers to feel confidence and trust in one another, they need to know that the past is over and done. How can you feel confident about your boyfriend if he holds onto photos of his ex girlfriend? You cannot.</p>\n<p>Sometimes people keep old photos or maintain contact with their ex <a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/library/relationship-challenges\">because they are unhappy with their present lover</a>. It’s usually the most recent ex that attracts their attention. There is an old saying that you should never get involved with someone who is rebounding from a failed relationship. Other times, people cannot let go of the feelings they had for their previous lover. This does not bode well for the success of the next relationship.</p>\n<p>Painful as this might be, you may have to give your boyfriend the choice of you or the pictures. I doubt that you will ever look back on the photos in the future with a laugh. It’s not a laughing matter.</p>","text":"To be honest, I cannot understand it either. I do know that you are not alone with this problem. Some people actually keep in touch with their ex lovers through facebook, telephone and even meeting together. Research shows that these behaviors weaken relationships and lead to their destruction. What you need to understand is that there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone has past relationships. However, for lovers to feel confidence and trust in one another, they need to know that the past is over and done. How can you feel confident about your boyfriend if he holds onto photos of his ex girlfriend? You cannot. Sometimes people keep old photos or maintain contact with their ex because they are unhappy with their present lover. It’s usually the most recent ex that attracts their attention. There is an old saying that you should never get involved with someone who is rebounding from a failed relationship. Other times, people cannot let go of the feelings they had for their previous lover. This does not bode well for the success of the next relationship. Painful as this might be, you may have to give your boyfriend the choice of you or the pictures. I doubt that you will ever look back on the photos in the future with a laugh. It’s not a laughing matter.","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz#person","name":"Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/allan-schwartz"}},"summaryScope":"Editorial overview of the original question and response; original review dates apply to the source conversation."},"presentation":{"updatedAt":"2026-10-03","template":"answer-conversation","imageGeneratedAt":"2026-10-03"},"seo":{"title":"Why does my boyfriend still have photos of his ex? | MentalHealth.com","description":"A reader feels uncomfortable that a boyfriend keeps affectionate photographs from a past relationship.","canonical":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/my-boyfriend-still-has-his-ex-girlfriends-photos","robots":"index,follow","socialImage":{"url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/social-tiles-20261006-dots/answers.png","width":1200,"height":630,"alt":"MentalHealth.com — Answers","type":"image/png","sitemapGroup":"answers"}},"subjectMatterExpert":{"name":"Carlos Protzel, Psy.D.","url":"/people/carlos-protzel","profileId":"13151","topic":"wellbeing","focus":"Integrative mental health care","selectionBasis":"Documented expertise in the existing published profile","reviewAttribution":false},"navigation":[],"relatedCommunity":{"community":"/community/relationships","basis":"topic match"},"collections":[]}