{"formatVersion":"1.1","id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/lack-of-social-skills","path":"/answers/lack-of-social-skills","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/lack-of-social-skills","title":"What causes a lack of social skills?","family":"Answers detail","description":"A reader can give presentations but struggles with casual conversation and attributes this to limited opportunities for self-expression while growing up.","language":"en-US","access":{"audience":"custom-shared-preview","indexable":true},"provenance":{"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/lack-of-social-skills","wordpressId":"6203","contentCompleteness":"complete","dateScope":"original-source"},"authors":[{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers#person","name":"Ann Landers","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers"}],"reviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"dates":{"datePublished":"2024-06-01T00:35:14Z","dateModified":"2025-09-07T08:04:51Z","lastReviewed":"2025-09-15"},"content":{"html":"<nav class=\"breadcrumbs\" aria-label=\"Breadcrumb\"><ol><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/\">Home</a></li><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a></li><li><span aria-current=\"page\">What causes a lack of social skills?</span></li></ol></nav><div class=\"article-page answer-page\" data-answer-template=\"conversation\"><header class=\"answer-heading article-heading\"><a class=\"answer-back\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a><h1>What causes a lack of social skills?</h1><div class=\"answer-credits\"><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9419.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Written by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Ann Landers</span></span></a><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Medically reviewed by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</span></span></a></div><dl class=\"answer-heading-dates\"><div><dt>Published</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2024-06-01T00:35:14Z\">June 1, 2024</time></dd></div><div><dt>Updated</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-09-07T08:04:51Z\">September 7, 2025</time></dd></div><div><dt>Reviewed</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-09-15\">September 15, 2025</time></dd></div></dl></header><nav class=\"answer-nav\" aria-label=\"Answer navigation\"><a href=\"#summary\">Summary</a><a href=\"#question\">Question</a><a href=\"#answer\">Answer</a></nav><article class=\"prose\" id=\"article-content\" data-answer-thread aria-label=\"Reader question and professional response\"><section class=\"answer-overview\" id=\"summary\" aria-labelledby=\"summary-title\"><h2 id=\"summary-title\">Summary</h2><figure class=\"answer-question-image\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/lack-of-social-skills-20261003.webp\" alt=\"Two adults practice conversation at an outdoor cafe.\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" fetchpriority=\"high\"></figure><p>A reader can give presentations but struggles with casual conversation and attributes this to limited opportunities for self-expression while growing up. They ask where to learn more spontaneous social skills.</p><p>The response emphasizes gradual practice, beginning with one person or online conversation before moving into groups.</p><p>It reminds the reader that people differ in social comfort, suggests avoiding excessive monitoring of every word, and encourages persistence rather than expecting immediate change.</p></section><div class=\"answer-originals\" id=\"original-conversation\"><div class=\"answer-originals-body\"><section class=\"answer-post answer-question\" id=\"question\" aria-labelledby=\"question-person\"><div class=\"answer-avatar answer-reader\" aria-hidden=\"true\">?</div><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"question-person\">Question</h2><span>Reader · Identity withheld</span></header><p>Due to circumstances I had little control over, namely oppressive parents, my capacity for self-expression is incredibly limited. By that I mean that while I can present information and make speeches, I simply can’t converse. I have no idea of what there is to say, how to say it, how to remain interesting as a conversation, or how to come up with things to say.</p>\n<p>I suspect that it may be a simple lack of practice and education. That being the case, where can one go to learn conversation? I want to know how to be spontaneous within a group of people. Any suggestions?</p></div></section><section class=\"answer-post answer-response\" id=\"answer\" aria-labelledby=\"response-person\"><a class=\"answer-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\" aria-label=\"View Ann Landers profile\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9419.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"44\" height=\"44\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"response-person\">Answer</h2><span>Ann Landers</span></header><p>You are precisely right. The best way to overcome a lack of social skills is with practice. Keep in mind, however, that not everyone can be the life of the party. Some of us are naturally comfortable conversing with others. Many self-help books suggest starting out small; practice talking to just one person. This way you are sure to get a chance to contribute to the conversation. If the thought of socializing with just one individual makes you uncomfortable, then I suggest practicing conversing online.</p>\n<p>Chats are very convenient ways to communicate with others. Some individuals have an easier time talking with others when they’re not face-to-face. When you’re comfortable with talking to one person, move on to larger groups. Tag along with a couple friends to a party. Parties are great places for meeting new people and socializing. Perhaps you would feel less awkward talking with individuals that you don’t know…</p>\n<p>Don’t over-examine what you’re saying. If you monitor every little thing you say, then chances are you will miss your opportunity to say what you wanted to say in the first place. There are tons of self-help methods out there for overcoming shyness. You will find that shyness is often equated with lack of social skills. I suggest you check out ‘s listing of self-esteem and shyness resources. Keep practicing, and don’t get discouraged! It’ll take some time, but I’m sure you will see an improvement.</p>\n<p>Best of luck, – Anne</p></div></section></div></div></article><div class=\"answer-endmatter\"><section class=\"article-expert answer-expert-card\" aria-label=\"Subject matter expert\" data-expert-kind=\"related\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\" tabindex=\"-1\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/13152.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-expert-copy\"><p class=\"article-bio-role\">Subject matter expert</p><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\">Carlos Protzel <span class=\"expert-credentials\">Psy.D.</span></a></h2><p class=\"article-expert-focus\">Integrative mental health care</p><a class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"article-topic-community\" aria-label=\"Related communities\"><img class=\"topic-community-banner\" src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-17229.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"48\" height=\"48\" loading=\"lazy\"><p class=\"topic-community-label\">Related communities</p><h2>Social Health</h2><p>Explore belonging, friendship, and the connections that shape life with others.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/community/social-health\">Explore community</a></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9419.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Author</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\">Ann Landers</a></h2><p>Ann Landers was the leading advice columnist for 47 years, with her widely syndicated columns reaching 90 million readers worldwide.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Medical reviewer</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</a></h2><p>Jesse Hanson, Ph.D., is a clinical and somatic psychologist with over 20 years of experience in neuropsychology, specializing in integrative, mind-body…</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-related\"><h2>Related questions</h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/what-are-some-coping-skills-for-paranoia\">What are some effective coping skills for dealing with paranoia?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/spitting-behavior\">What causes spitting behavior?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/please-explain-how-it-is-that-psychopaths-can-manipulate-people-if-they-have-no-empathy\">How can psychopaths manipulate people if they lack empathy?</a></section></div></div>","text":"HomeAnswersWhat causes a lack of social skills?AnswersWhat causes a lack of social skills?Written byAnn LandersMedically reviewed byJesse Hanson, Ph.D.PublishedJune 1, 2024UpdatedSeptember 7, 2025ReviewedSeptember 15, 2025SummaryQuestionAnswerSummaryA reader can give presentations but struggles with casual conversation and attributes this to limited opportunities for self-expression while growing up. They ask where to learn more spontaneous social skills.The response emphasizes gradual practice, beginning with one person or online conversation before moving into groups.It reminds the reader that people differ in social comfort, suggests avoiding excessive monitoring of every word, and encourages persistence rather than expecting immediate change.?QuestionReader · Identity withheldDue to circumstances I had little control over, namely oppressive parents, my capacity for self-expression is incredibly limited. By that I mean that while I can present information and make speeches, I simply can’t converse. I have no idea of what there is to say, how to say it, how to remain interesting as a conversation, or how to come up with things to say. I suspect that it may be a simple lack of practice and education. That being the case, where can one go to learn conversation? I want to know how to be spontaneous within a group of people. Any suggestions?AnswerAnn LandersYou are precisely right. The best way to overcome a lack of social skills is with practice. Keep in mind, however, that not everyone can be the life of the party. Some of us are naturally comfortable conversing with others. Many self-help books suggest starting out small; practice talking to just one person. This way you are sure to get a chance to contribute to the conversation. If the thought of socializing with just one individual makes you uncomfortable, then I suggest practicing conversing online. Chats are very convenient ways to communicate with others. Some individuals have an easier time talking with others when they’re not face-to-face. When you’re comfortable with talking to one person, move on to larger groups. Tag along with a couple friends to a party. Parties are great places for meeting new people and socializing. Perhaps you would feel less awkward talking with individuals that you don’t know… Don’t over-examine what you’re saying. If you monitor every little thing you say, then chances are you will miss your opportunity to say what you wanted to say in the first place. There are tons of self-help methods out there for overcoming shyness. You will find that shyness is often equated with lack of social skills. I suggest you check out ‘s listing of self-esteem and shyness resources. Keep practicing, and don’t get discouraged! It’ll take some time, but I’m sure you will see an improvement. 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They ask where to learn more spontaneous social skills.","answer":"The response emphasizes gradual practice, beginning with one person or online conversation before moving into groups. It reminds the reader that people differ in social comfort, suggests avoiding excessive monitoring of every word, and encourages persistence rather than expecting immediate change."},"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/lack-of-social-skills","sourceReviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"question":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/lack-of-social-skills#question","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/lack-of-social-skills#question","html":"<p>Due to circumstances I had little control over, namely oppressive parents, my capacity for self-expression is incredibly limited. By that I mean that while I can present information and make speeches, I simply can’t converse. I have no idea of what there is to say, how to say it, how to remain interesting as a conversation, or how to come up with things to say.</p>\n<p>I suspect that it may be a simple lack of practice and education. That being the case, where can one go to learn conversation? I want to know how to be spontaneous within a group of people. Any suggestions?</p>","text":"Due to circumstances I had little control over, namely oppressive parents, my capacity for self-expression is incredibly limited. By that I mean that while I can present information and make speeches, I simply can’t converse. I have no idea of what there is to say, how to say it, how to remain interesting as a conversation, or how to come up with things to say. I suspect that it may be a simple lack of practice and education. That being the case, where can one go to learn conversation? I want to know how to be spontaneous within a group of people. Any suggestions?"},"answer":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/lack-of-social-skills#answer","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/lack-of-social-skills#answer","html":"<p>You are precisely right. The best way to overcome a lack of social skills is with practice. Keep in mind, however, that not everyone can be the life of the party. Some of us are naturally comfortable conversing with others. Many self-help books suggest starting out small; practice talking to just one person. This way you are sure to get a chance to contribute to the conversation. If the thought of socializing with just one individual makes you uncomfortable, then I suggest practicing conversing online.</p>\n<p>Chats are very convenient ways to communicate with others. Some individuals have an easier time talking with others when they’re not face-to-face. When you’re comfortable with talking to one person, move on to larger groups. Tag along with a couple friends to a party. Parties are great places for meeting new people and socializing. Perhaps you would feel less awkward talking with individuals that you don’t know…</p>\n<p>Don’t over-examine what you’re saying. If you monitor every little thing you say, then chances are you will miss your opportunity to say what you wanted to say in the first place. There are tons of self-help methods out there for overcoming shyness. You will find that shyness is often equated with lack of social skills. I suggest you check out ‘s listing of self-esteem and shyness resources. Keep practicing, and don’t get discouraged! It’ll take some time, but I’m sure you will see an improvement.</p>\n<p>Best of luck, – Anne</p>","text":"You are precisely right. The best way to overcome a lack of social skills is with practice. Keep in mind, however, that not everyone can be the life of the party. Some of us are naturally comfortable conversing with others. Many self-help books suggest starting out small; practice talking to just one person. This way you are sure to get a chance to contribute to the conversation. If the thought of socializing with just one individual makes you uncomfortable, then I suggest practicing conversing online. Chats are very convenient ways to communicate with others. Some individuals have an easier time talking with others when they’re not face-to-face. When you’re comfortable with talking to one person, move on to larger groups. Tag along with a couple friends to a party. Parties are great places for meeting new people and socializing. Perhaps you would feel less awkward talking with individuals that you don’t know… Don’t over-examine what you’re saying. If you monitor every little thing you say, then chances are you will miss your opportunity to say what you wanted to say in the first place. There are tons of self-help methods out there for overcoming shyness. You will find that shyness is often equated with lack of social skills. I suggest you check out ‘s listing of self-esteem and shyness resources. Keep practicing, and don’t get discouraged! It’ll take some time, but I’m sure you will see an improvement. Best of luck, – Anne","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers#person","name":"Ann Landers","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers"}},"summaryScope":"Editorial overview of the original question and response; original review dates apply to the source conversation."},"presentation":{"updatedAt":"2026-10-03","template":"answer-conversation","imageGeneratedAt":"2026-10-03"},"seo":{"title":"What causes a lack of social skills? | MentalHealth.com","description":"A reader can give presentations but struggles with casual conversation and attributes this to limited opportunities for self-expression while growing up.","canonical":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/lack-of-social-skills","robots":"index,follow","socialImage":{"url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/social-tiles-20261006-dots/answers.png","width":1200,"height":630,"alt":"MentalHealth.com — Answers","type":"image/png","sitemapGroup":"answers"}},"subjectMatterExpert":{"name":"Carlos Protzel, Psy.D.","url":"/people/carlos-protzel","profileId":"13151","topic":"wellbeing","focus":"Integrative mental health care","selectionBasis":"Documented expertise in the existing published profile","reviewAttribution":false},"navigation":[],"relatedCommunity":{"community":"/community/social-health","basis":"topic match"},"collections":[]}