{"formatVersion":"1.1","id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/im-a-homebody","path":"/answers/im-a-homebody","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/im-a-homebody","title":"Why am I such a homebody?","family":"Answers detail","description":"A homemaker enjoys limited socializing and time at home, but a longtime friend's constant plans and calls feel intrusive.","language":"en-US","access":{"audience":"custom-shared-preview","indexable":true},"provenance":{"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/im-a-homebody","wordpressId":"6178","contentCompleteness":"complete","dateScope":"original-source"},"authors":[{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers#person","name":"Ann Landers","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers"}],"reviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"dates":{"datePublished":"2024-06-01T00:35:13Z","dateModified":"2025-09-07T08:30:21Z","lastReviewed":"2025-09-15"},"content":{"html":"<nav class=\"breadcrumbs\" aria-label=\"Breadcrumb\"><ol><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/\">Home</a></li><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a></li><li><span aria-current=\"page\">Why am I such a homebody?</span></li></ol></nav><div class=\"article-page answer-page\" data-answer-template=\"conversation\"><header class=\"answer-heading article-heading\"><a class=\"answer-back\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a><h1>Why am I such a homebody?</h1><div class=\"answer-credits\"><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9419.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Written by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Ann Landers</span></span></a><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Medically reviewed by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</span></span></a></div><dl class=\"answer-heading-dates\"><div><dt>Published</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2024-06-01T00:35:13Z\">June 1, 2024</time></dd></div><div><dt>Updated</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-09-07T08:30:21Z\">September 7, 2025</time></dd></div><div><dt>Reviewed</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-09-15\">September 15, 2025</time></dd></div></dl></header><nav class=\"answer-nav\" aria-label=\"Answer navigation\"><a href=\"#summary\">Summary</a><a href=\"#question\">Question</a><a href=\"#answer\">Answer</a></nav><article class=\"prose\" id=\"article-content\" data-answer-thread aria-label=\"Reader question and professional response\"><section class=\"answer-overview\" id=\"summary\" aria-labelledby=\"summary-title\"><h2 id=\"summary-title\">Summary</h2><figure class=\"answer-question-image\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/im-a-homebody-20261003.webp\" alt=\"Hands knitting with pale blue wool beside a cup of tea.\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" fetchpriority=\"high\"></figure><p>A homemaker enjoys limited socializing and time at home, but a longtime friend's constant plans and calls feel intrusive. She worries that setting limits makes her seem unfriendly and asks whether something is wrong with her.</p><p>The response affirms that people differ in how much social time they want and that enjoying home life is not inherently a problem.</p><p>It suggests explaining those feelings honestly to the friend.</p><p>Including other friends in occasional shared plans is offered as a way to widen the friend's social connections and communicate that the reader has other relationships too.</p></section><div class=\"answer-originals\" id=\"original-conversation\"><div class=\"answer-originals-body\"><section class=\"answer-post answer-question\" id=\"question\" aria-labelledby=\"question-person\"><div class=\"answer-avatar answer-reader\" aria-hidden=\"true\">?</div><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"question-person\">Question</h2><span>Reader · Identity withheld</span></header><p>I am a full-time homemaker, and I love it. I have a friend of eight years, and we both have children close to the same age. She is driving me crazy! She schedules events for me, my husband, her husband… She wants to be a part of my everyday life. If I pull back, she accuses me of being mad at her. I do have other friends, but I am also a homebody.</p>\n<p>I like to socialize a little, then retreat to my homemaking. She never stops. I have little time for anyone else. I am 37 she is 40. My husband and kids are starting to notice that I resent her phone calls. I stopped calling her. I try to do things with her, but she always wants more.</p>\n<p>Somehow I look bad to her family, as well as my family. Is something wrong with me that I am so content with just staying home? I am seen as unsocial. I know I am a nice person, but I resent this intrusion. When she plans things, my kids they know before me. This upsets things; I feel I have to go along to please my children.</p>\n<p>Thanks so much.</p></div></section><section class=\"answer-post answer-response\" id=\"answer\" aria-labelledby=\"response-person\"><a class=\"answer-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\" aria-label=\"View Ann Landers profile\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9419.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"44\" height=\"44\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"response-person\">Answer</h2><span>Ann Landers</span></header><p>There is nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home. Some of us are just more social than others… Have you tried talking with your friend and telling her how you feel? She should not be upset with you as long as she sees that you are being truthful with her.</p>\n<p>Does she have other friends? Would it be possible to introduce her to some of your other friends? Try inviting some of your friends along the next time the two of you have plans.</p>\n<p>This would provide an opportunity for her to meet new people. It would also help her to realize that you have friends other than her.</p>\n<p>Hope things work out,</p>\n<p>– Anne</p></div></section></div></div></article><div class=\"answer-endmatter\"><section class=\"article-expert answer-expert-card\" aria-label=\"Subject matter expert\" data-expert-kind=\"related\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\" tabindex=\"-1\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/13152.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-expert-copy\"><p class=\"article-bio-role\">Subject matter expert</p><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\">Carlos Protzel <span class=\"expert-credentials\">Psy.D.</span></a></h2><p class=\"article-expert-focus\">Integrative mental health care</p><a class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/carlos-protzel\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"article-topic-community\" aria-label=\"Related communities\"><img class=\"topic-community-banner\" src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-17221.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"48\" height=\"48\" loading=\"lazy\"><p class=\"topic-community-label\">Related communities</p><h2>Relationships</h2><p>Connect around communication, closeness, boundaries, and the relationships that matter to you.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/community/relationships\">Explore community</a></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9419.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Author</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\">Ann Landers</a></h2><p>Ann Landers was the leading advice columnist for 47 years, with her widely syndicated columns reaching 90 million readers worldwide.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Medical reviewer</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</a></h2><p>Jesse Hanson, Ph.D., is a clinical and somatic psychologist with over 20 years of experience in neuropsychology, specializing in integrative, mind-body…</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-related\"><h2>Related questions</h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/is-it-possible-to-stop-being-an-attention-seeker\">How do I stop being such an attention seeker?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/i-have-a-hard-time-making-friends-with-other-guys\">Why do I have such a hard time making friends with other guys?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/will-my-boyfriend-eventually-hit-me\">Will my boyfriend eventually hit me?</a></section></div></div>","text":"HomeAnswersWhy am I such a homebody?AnswersWhy am I such a homebody?Written byAnn LandersMedically reviewed byJesse Hanson, Ph.D.PublishedJune 1, 2024UpdatedSeptember 7, 2025ReviewedSeptember 15, 2025SummaryQuestionAnswerSummaryA homemaker enjoys limited socializing and time at home, but a longtime friend's constant plans and calls feel intrusive. She worries that setting limits makes her seem unfriendly and asks whether something is wrong with her.The response affirms that people differ in how much social time they want and that enjoying home life is not inherently a problem.It suggests explaining those feelings honestly to the friend.Including other friends in occasional shared plans is offered as a way to widen the friend's social connections and communicate that the reader has other relationships too.?QuestionReader · Identity withheldI am a full-time homemaker, and I love it. I have a friend of eight years, and we both have children close to the same age. She is driving me crazy! She schedules events for me, my husband, her husband… She wants to be a part of my everyday life. If I pull back, she accuses me of being mad at her. I do have other friends, but I am also a homebody. I like to socialize a little, then retreat to my homemaking. She never stops. I have little time for anyone else. I am 37 she is 40. My husband and kids are starting to notice that I resent her phone calls. I stopped calling her. I try to do things with her, but she always wants more. Somehow I look bad to her family, as well as my family. Is something wrong with me that I am so content with just staying home? I am seen as unsocial. I know I am a nice person, but I resent this intrusion. When she plans things, my kids they know before me. This upsets things; I feel I have to go along to please my children. Thanks so much.AnswerAnn LandersThere is nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home. Some of us are just more social than others… Have you tried talking with your friend and telling her how you feel? She should not be upset with you as long as she sees that you are being truthful with her. Does she have other friends? Would it be possible to introduce her to some of your other friends? Try inviting some of your friends along the next time the two of you have plans. This would provide an opportunity for her to meet new people. It would also help her to realize that you have friends other than her. 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She worries that setting limits makes her seem unfriendly and asks whether something is wrong with her.","answer":"The response affirms that people differ in how much social time they want and that enjoying home life is not inherently a problem. It suggests explaining those feelings honestly to the friend. Including other friends in occasional shared plans is offered as a way to widen the friend's social connections and communicate that the reader has other relationships too."},"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/im-a-homebody","sourceReviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"question":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/im-a-homebody#question","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/im-a-homebody#question","html":"<p>I am a full-time homemaker, and I love it. I have a friend of eight years, and we both have children close to the same age. She is driving me crazy! She schedules events for me, my husband, her husband… She wants to be a part of my everyday life. If I pull back, she accuses me of being mad at her. I do have other friends, but I am also a homebody.</p>\n<p>I like to socialize a little, then retreat to my homemaking. She never stops. I have little time for anyone else. I am 37 she is 40. My husband and kids are starting to notice that I resent her phone calls. I stopped calling her. I try to do things with her, but she always wants more.</p>\n<p>Somehow I look bad to her family, as well as my family. Is something wrong with me that I am so content with just staying home? I am seen as unsocial. I know I am a nice person, but I resent this intrusion. When she plans things, my kids they know before me. This upsets things; I feel I have to go along to please my children.</p>\n<p>Thanks so much.</p>","text":"I am a full-time homemaker, and I love it. I have a friend of eight years, and we both have children close to the same age. She is driving me crazy! She schedules events for me, my husband, her husband… She wants to be a part of my everyday life. If I pull back, she accuses me of being mad at her. I do have other friends, but I am also a homebody. I like to socialize a little, then retreat to my homemaking. She never stops. I have little time for anyone else. I am 37 she is 40. My husband and kids are starting to notice that I resent her phone calls. I stopped calling her. I try to do things with her, but she always wants more. Somehow I look bad to her family, as well as my family. Is something wrong with me that I am so content with just staying home? I am seen as unsocial. I know I am a nice person, but I resent this intrusion. When she plans things, my kids they know before me. This upsets things; I feel I have to go along to please my children. Thanks so much."},"answer":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/im-a-homebody#answer","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/im-a-homebody#answer","html":"<p>There is nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home. Some of us are just more social than others… Have you tried talking with your friend and telling her how you feel? She should not be upset with you as long as she sees that you are being truthful with her.</p>\n<p>Does she have other friends? Would it be possible to introduce her to some of your other friends? Try inviting some of your friends along the next time the two of you have plans.</p>\n<p>This would provide an opportunity for her to meet new people. It would also help her to realize that you have friends other than her.</p>\n<p>Hope things work out,</p>\n<p>– Anne</p>","text":"There is nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home. Some of us are just more social than others… Have you tried talking with your friend and telling her how you feel? She should not be upset with you as long as she sees that you are being truthful with her. Does she have other friends? Would it be possible to introduce her to some of your other friends? Try inviting some of your friends along the next time the two of you have plans. This would provide an opportunity for her to meet new people. It would also help her to realize that you have friends other than her. Hope things work out, – Anne","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers#person","name":"Ann Landers","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers"}},"summaryScope":"Editorial overview of the original question and response; original review dates apply to the source conversation."},"presentation":{"updatedAt":"2026-10-03","template":"answer-conversation","imageGeneratedAt":"2026-10-03"},"seo":{"title":"Why am I such a homebody? | MentalHealth.com","description":"A homemaker enjoys limited socializing and time at home, but a longtime friend's constant plans and calls feel intrusive.","canonical":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/im-a-homebody","robots":"index,follow","socialImage":{"url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/social-tiles-20261006-dots/answers.png","width":1200,"height":630,"alt":"MentalHealth.com — Answers","type":"image/png","sitemapGroup":"answers"}},"subjectMatterExpert":{"name":"Carlos Protzel, Psy.D.","url":"/people/carlos-protzel","profileId":"13151","topic":"wellbeing","focus":"Integrative mental health care","selectionBasis":"Documented expertise in the existing published profile","reviewAttribution":false},"navigation":[],"relatedCommunity":{"community":"/community/relationships","basis":"topic match"},"collections":[]}