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A fine-art student living with a mental health condition fears rejection when discussing benefits and personal circumstances on dates. The student wants connection but feels ashamed and unsure how to introduce himself.
The response acknowledges stigma while emphasizing that people with mental health conditions can form lasting relationships.
It encourages describing the reader’s studies, efforts, and fuller identity with pride rather than reducing himself to benefits or diagnosis; its comments about benefit eligibility are not established for this individual.
Question
Reader · Identity withheldI am reaching out for support about dating and finding a loving partner. I have found it really difficult to form meaningful connections and I have tried dating, but when women ask what I do for a living, I struggle to be honest. I am currently on welfare benefits and living with a mental health condition. When I have shared this in the past, I was rejected, and it left me feeling emotionally crushed.
\nI am also a fine art student at university, and I am working hard to build a future.
\nSome people tell me not to share these personal details right away and to wait until later in the relationship, but I am afraid that if I wait until I have developed strong feelings and then open up, I will be rejected again.
\nI truly believe I deserve a loving relationship like anyone else, but the fear, judgment, and loneliness make it incredibly difficult. It has been deeply upsetting, and I would really appreciate any advice or guidance you can offer.
\nThank you.
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Answer
Allan Schwartz, Ph.D.Of course it is very true that mental illness continues to carry with it a very real stigma. In my opinion, it is not the diagnoses having to do with Depression and Anxiety Disorders that are the problem. Instead, the Acute Mental Illnesses that continues to be highly stigmatized. The Acute Mental Illnesses include such things as the Psychotic illnesses and Schizophrenia. These seem to be misunderstood by the public and continue to be stigmatized, unfortunately. At the very same time, the general public appears to understand and accept the Bipolar Disorders. Perhaps this is due to the fact that so many famous people both presently and in the past have had this diagnosis.
\nDespite all of this you need to know that people with Schizophrenia as well as people, who have any of the other chronic mental illnesses, do date and even marry and raise children. I can report this to you out of direct experience that comes from working in this field for many years. In addition, the partners who married these patients knew full well that their dating partner had a mental illness. Of course, not everyone will be willing to date someone with a mental illness but this is true of anything in life. In fact, I will concede to you that it is more difficult to find someone who will accept a mental illness but it is not impossible.
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Looking at the way you wrote your email question is interesting because, upon first reading it, it seems as though your concern is about being on Welfare benefits. First, I suspect that this is not accurate at all. What I mean is that you are probably on disability, not welfare. Disability comes under the Social Security Act and is an entirely different thing. If I am right about you then you could be scaring people away with the word “welfare” and not with the word “mental illness.” Remember, welfare is stigmatizing also.
\nBy the way, if you are on Welfare you need to look into changing that. Mental illnesses, particularly the chronic ones, qualify as disabilities. Therefore, you may qualify for Social Security Disability and it pays more money and entitles you to Medicare and that makes more medical services available to you.
\nGoing back to your email, it seems to me that you feel ashamed about having a mental illness. In other words, it is your own sense of embarrassment about this that is getting in your way.
\nRemember, you are a student, a Fine Arts Student at the University. That is really good. Perhaps you do not communicate to people how well you are doing and how proud you are to be a fine arts student.
\nPeople ask you what you do for a living and you tell them that you are on welfare. No, No, this is not true. You are a student and that means a whole lot. You need to stop portraying yourself in such a lowly way.
\nI am sure that there are many women out there who would be willing to date you if they really knew who you are. For that to happen, you have to tell them.
\nBest of luck.
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