{"formatVersion":"1.1","id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual","path":"/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual","title":"Am I bisexual?","family":"Answers detail","description":"A man in a loving relationship describes intrusive doubts about his sexuality recurring alongside depression.","language":"en-US","access":{"audience":"custom-shared-preview","indexable":true},"provenance":{"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual","wordpressId":"6047","contentCompleteness":"complete","dateScope":"original-source"},"authors":[{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers#person","name":"Ann Landers","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers"}],"reviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"dates":{"datePublished":"2025-06-10T08:52:53Z","dateModified":"2025-08-26T20:20:43Z","lastReviewed":"2025-09-15"},"content":{"html":"<nav class=\"breadcrumbs\" aria-label=\"Breadcrumb\"><ol><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/\">Home</a></li><li><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a></li><li><span aria-current=\"page\">Am I bisexual?</span></li></ol></nav><div class=\"article-page answer-page\" data-answer-template=\"conversation\"><header class=\"answer-heading article-heading\"><a class=\"answer-back\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers\">Answers</a><h1>Am I bisexual?</h1><div class=\"answer-credits\"><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9419.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Written by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Ann Landers</span></span></a><a class=\"answer-credit-person\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"40\" loading=\"lazy\"><span><span class=\"answer-credit-role\">Medically reviewed by</span><span class=\"answer-credit-name\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</span></span></a></div><dl class=\"answer-heading-dates\"><div><dt>Published</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-06-10T08:52:53Z\">June 10, 2025</time></dd></div><div><dt>Updated</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-08-26T20:20:43Z\">August 26, 2025</time></dd></div><div><dt>Reviewed</dt><dd><time datetime=\"2025-09-15\">September 15, 2025</time></dd></div></dl></header><nav class=\"answer-nav\" aria-label=\"Answer navigation\"><a href=\"#summary\">Summary</a><a href=\"#question\">Question</a><a href=\"#answer\">Answer</a></nav><article class=\"prose\" id=\"article-content\" data-answer-thread aria-label=\"Reader question and professional response\"><section class=\"answer-overview\" id=\"summary\" aria-labelledby=\"summary-title\"><h2 id=\"summary-title\">Summary</h2><figure class=\"answer-question-image\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual-20261003.webp\" alt=\"A man walking along a tree-lined riverside path.\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" fetchpriority=\"high\"></figure><p>A man in a loving relationship describes intrusive doubts about his sexuality recurring alongside depression. He asks whether unwanted thoughts mean he is bisexual or could reflect an obsessive pattern.</p><p>The response offers the author’s impression that the doubts may concern feared judgments rather than attraction, while affirming there is nothing wrong with same-sex desire.</p><p>It suggests exploring the source of the worries and placing less emphasis on labels; it does not establish a diagnosis.</p></section><div class=\"answer-originals\" id=\"original-conversation\"><div class=\"answer-originals-body\"><section class=\"answer-post answer-question\" id=\"question\" aria-labelledby=\"question-person\"><div class=\"answer-avatar answer-reader\" aria-hidden=\"true\">?</div><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"question-person\">Question</h2><span>Reader · Identity withheld</span></header><p>I'm a 24-year-old man. I’ve had sex with four women and have been romantically involved with around twelve. I've genuinely enjoyed all of those experiences, especially with my current girlfriend, whom I love and feel very close to. However, I’ve struggled with depression in the past, including a severe episode when I was 18. During that time, I experienced intrusive and obsessive thoughts about being gay even though I didn’t feel any actual desire to be with another man. Those thoughts eventually faded, but they’ve recently come back.</p>\n<p>Right now, I’m feeling depressed again and am taking Effexor. The return of these thoughts is really unsettling and confusing. I still love my girlfriend and have a fulfilling sexual relationship with her. These thoughts don’t reflect how I feel, but they keep intruding, making me wonder if this could be a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.</p>\n<p>I don’t believe I’m bisexual, I don’t have a genuine attraction to men, but the intrusive nature of these thoughts is hard to ignore. Any insight, especially from those who’ve experienced something similar or from a clinical perspective, would mean a lot.</p></div></section><section class=\"answer-post answer-response\" id=\"answer\" aria-labelledby=\"response-person\"><a class=\"answer-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\" aria-label=\"View Ann Landers profile\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9419.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"44\" height=\"44\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-post-content\"><header class=\"answer-person\"><h2 id=\"response-person\">Answer</h2><span>Ann Landers</span></header><p>From what you tell me I do not think that you are bisexual or gay. Even if you do have some desire to be with a man there is nothing wrong with that. It sounds like you are mostly paranoid that other people will think that you are gay. <a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/library/self-help-for-major-depression\" class=\"article-inline-link\">Did something happen</a> when you were growing up or recently that makes you think you are gay? For example, where you teased about it. Finding the source if possible for your thoughts will help to alleviate them.</p>\n<p>My best advice for you is to be confident in your sexuality, and not to worry what to label it. Hope this helps. – Anne</p></div></section></div></div></article><div class=\"answer-endmatter\"><section class=\"article-expert answer-expert-card\" aria-label=\"Subject matter expert\" data-expert-kind=\"related\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/ondina-hatvany\" tabindex=\"-1\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9245.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div class=\"answer-expert-copy\"><p class=\"article-bio-role\">Subject matter expert</p><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/ondina-hatvany\">Ondina Nandine Hatvany</a></h2><p class=\"article-expert-focus\">Relationships and sexual identity</p><a class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/ondina-hatvany\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"article-topic-community\" aria-label=\"Related communities\"><img class=\"topic-community-banner\" src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-3503.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"48\" height=\"48\" loading=\"lazy\"><p class=\"topic-community-label\">Related communities</p><h2>Sexual Health</h2><p>A respectful space to explore sexuality, intimacy, identity, and their connection to well-being.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/community/sexual-health\">Explore community</a></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9419.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Author</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\">Ann Landers</a></h2><p>Ann Landers was the leading advice columnist for 47 years, with her widely syndicated columns reaching 90 million readers worldwide.</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-author-card answer-reviewer-card\"><a class=\"answer-card-avatar\" href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\"><img src=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/wordpress/9210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"64\" loading=\"lazy\"></a><div><span class=\"answer-reviewer-label\">Medical reviewer</span><h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\">Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.</a></h2><p>Jesse Hanson, Ph.D., is a clinical and somatic psychologist with over 20 years of experience in neuropsychology, specializing in integrative, mind-body…</p><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson\" class=\"profile-experience-link experience-button\">View experience</a></div></section><section class=\"answer-related\"><h2>Related questions</h2><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/will-my-boyfriend-eventually-hit-me\">Will my boyfriend eventually hit me?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/will-i-ever-feel-normal\">Will I ever feel normal?</a><a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/wife-of-21-years-has-a-boyfriend\">Why does my wife of 21 years have a boyfriend?</a></section></div></div>","text":"HomeAnswersAm I bisexual?AnswersAm I bisexual?Written byAnn LandersMedically reviewed byJesse Hanson, Ph.D.PublishedJune 10, 2025UpdatedAugust 26, 2025ReviewedSeptember 15, 2025SummaryQuestionAnswerSummaryA man in a loving relationship describes intrusive doubts about his sexuality recurring alongside depression. He asks whether unwanted thoughts mean he is bisexual or could reflect an obsessive pattern.The response offers the author’s impression that the doubts may concern feared judgments rather than attraction, while affirming there is nothing wrong with same-sex desire.It suggests exploring the source of the worries and placing less emphasis on labels; it does not establish a diagnosis.?QuestionReader · Identity withheldI'm a 24-year-old man. I’ve had sex with four women and have been romantically involved with around twelve. I've genuinely enjoyed all of those experiences, especially with my current girlfriend, whom I love and feel very close to. However, I’ve struggled with depression in the past, including a severe episode when I was 18. During that time, I experienced intrusive and obsessive thoughts about being gay even though I didn’t feel any actual desire to be with another man. Those thoughts eventually faded, but they’ve recently come back. Right now, I’m feeling depressed again and am taking Effexor. The return of these thoughts is really unsettling and confusing. I still love my girlfriend and have a fulfilling sexual relationship with her. These thoughts don’t reflect how I feel, but they keep intruding, making me wonder if this could be a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I don’t believe I’m bisexual, I don’t have a genuine attraction to men, but the intrusive nature of these thoughts is hard to ignore. Any insight, especially from those who’ve experienced something similar or from a clinical perspective, would mean a lot.AnswerAnn LandersFrom what you tell me I do not think that you are bisexual or gay. Even if you do have some desire to be with a man there is nothing wrong with that. It sounds like you are mostly paranoid that other people will think that you are gay. Did something happen when you were growing up or recently that makes you think you are gay? For example, where you teased about it. Finding the source if possible for your thoughts will help to alleviate them. My best advice for you is to be confident in your sexuality, and not to worry what to label it. 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He asks whether unwanted thoughts mean he is bisexual or could reflect an obsessive pattern.","answer":"The response offers the author’s impression that the doubts may concern feared judgments rather than attraction, while affirming there is nothing wrong with same-sex desire. It suggests exploring the source of the worries and placing less emphasis on labels; it does not establish a diagnosis."},"sourceUrl":"https://www.mentalhealth.com/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual","sourceReviewer":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson#person","name":"Jesse Hanson, Ph.D.","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/jesse-hanson"},"question":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual#question","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual#question","html":"<p>I'm a 24-year-old man. I’ve had sex with four women and have been romantically involved with around twelve. I've genuinely enjoyed all of those experiences, especially with my current girlfriend, whom I love and feel very close to. However, I’ve struggled with depression in the past, including a severe episode when I was 18. During that time, I experienced intrusive and obsessive thoughts about being gay even though I didn’t feel any actual desire to be with another man. Those thoughts eventually faded, but they’ve recently come back.</p>\n<p>Right now, I’m feeling depressed again and am taking Effexor. The return of these thoughts is really unsettling and confusing. I still love my girlfriend and have a fulfilling sexual relationship with her. These thoughts don’t reflect how I feel, but they keep intruding, making me wonder if this could be a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.</p>\n<p>I don’t believe I’m bisexual, I don’t have a genuine attraction to men, but the intrusive nature of these thoughts is hard to ignore. Any insight, especially from those who’ve experienced something similar or from a clinical perspective, would mean a lot.</p>","text":"I'm a 24-year-old man. I’ve had sex with four women and have been romantically involved with around twelve. I've genuinely enjoyed all of those experiences, especially with my current girlfriend, whom I love and feel very close to. However, I’ve struggled with depression in the past, including a severe episode when I was 18. During that time, I experienced intrusive and obsessive thoughts about being gay even though I didn’t feel any actual desire to be with another man. Those thoughts eventually faded, but they’ve recently come back. Right now, I’m feeling depressed again and am taking Effexor. The return of these thoughts is really unsettling and confusing. I still love my girlfriend and have a fulfilling sexual relationship with her. These thoughts don’t reflect how I feel, but they keep intruding, making me wonder if this could be a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I don’t believe I’m bisexual, I don’t have a genuine attraction to men, but the intrusive nature of these thoughts is hard to ignore. Any insight, especially from those who’ve experienced something similar or from a clinical perspective, would mean a lot."},"answer":{"id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual#answer","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual#answer","html":"<p>From what you tell me I do not think that you are bisexual or gay. Even if you do have some desire to be with a man there is nothing wrong with that. It sounds like you are mostly paranoid that other people will think that you are gay. <a href=\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/library/self-help-for-major-depression\">Did something happen</a> when you were growing up or recently that makes you think you are gay? For example, where you teased about it. Finding the source if possible for your thoughts will help to alleviate them.</p>\n<p>My best advice for you is to be confident in your sexuality, and not to worry what to label it. Hope this helps. – Anne</p>","text":"From what you tell me I do not think that you are bisexual or gay. Even if you do have some desire to be with a man there is nothing wrong with that. It sounds like you are mostly paranoid that other people will think that you are gay. Did something happen when you were growing up or recently that makes you think you are gay? For example, where you teased about it. Finding the source if possible for your thoughts will help to alleviate them. My best advice for you is to be confident in your sexuality, and not to worry what to label it. Hope this helps. – Anne","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers#person","name":"Ann Landers","url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/people/anne-landers"}},"summaryScope":"Editorial overview of the original question and response; original review dates apply to the source conversation."},"presentation":{"updatedAt":"2026-10-03","template":"answer-conversation","imageGeneratedAt":"2026-10-03"},"seo":{"title":"Am I bisexual? | MentalHealth.com","description":"A man in a loving relationship describes intrusive doubts about his sexuality recurring alongside depression.","canonical":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/answers/advice-for-am-i-bisexual","robots":"index,follow","socialImage":{"url":"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/social-tiles-20261006-dots/answers.png","width":1200,"height":630,"alt":"MentalHealth.com — Answers","type":"image/png","sitemapGroup":"answers"}},"subjectMatterExpert":{"name":"Ondina Nandine Hatvany","url":"/people/ondina-hatvany","profileId":"6420","topic":"sexuality","focus":"Relationships and sexual identity","selectionBasis":"Documented expertise in the existing published profile","reviewAttribution":false},"navigation":[],"relatedCommunity":{"community":"/community/sexual-health","basis":"topic match"},"collections":[]}