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Why do I feel like I don’t matter?
I feel depressed and unable to open up.
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Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
Answers
Questions, shared experiences, and professional perspectives.
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Why do I have these terrifying thoughts?
A young man describes evening mood changes and frightening intrusive thoughts about harming himself or others that conflict with his values. He fears psychosis and wants to understand what is happening.
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Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
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Can my partner stop watching porn?
A reader has discovered a partner’s frequent pornography use, including material they believe may involve minors, and is uncertain about continuing the relationship. The partner promised to stop but attended only a few counseling sessions.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
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Can we have a future if his ex is still around?
A reader discovered that a boyfriend continues a sexual relationship with an ex while promising a future together. They ask whether patiently waiting will lead him to choose an exclusive relationship.
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Answer byAnn Landers
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Why do I struggle with being faithful?
A reader describes repeated flirting and kissing others, sometimes after drinking, that has damaged relationships. They want to understand the pattern and create greater stability for their children and current partner.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-3525.webp\")
How do I let go of my ex-sister-in-law?
After leaving an abusive marriage, a reader feels betrayed by a formerly close sister-in-law and repeatedly reads hurtful blog posts. They ask how to grieve the friendship, find closure, and build new connections.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/he-cheats-on-me-is-it-my-fault-20261003.webp\")
Is it my fault that he has cheated on me?
A pregnant reader describes a fiancé’s repeated infidelity and his claim that arguments made him cheat. They feel torn between ending the relationship and valuing his role as a father and provider.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/he-says-im-ignorant-being-a-moron-20261003.webp\")
Am I the problem or is this emotional abuse?
A reader with a young baby describes a boyfriend’s insults, pressure over childcare and work, and a new threat of physical violence. They question whether they are at fault and worry about what their daughter is learning.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/heal-your-emotional-disrepair-learn-how-to-rebuild-yourself-20261003.webp\")
How do I cope when life feels hopeless?
A young parent describes severe anxiety, anger, exhaustion, and daily crying amid stress and financial barriers to care. They feel hopeless and ask how to obtain help without insurance.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/healing-from-harassment-tips-advice-for-recovery-20261003.webp\")
How can my best friend heal from harassment?
A reader describes a friend’s persistent frightening images and fear after sexual harassment at school. They ask how the friend can recover and what support might help.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Chairs](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/help-with-a-histrionic-friend-20261003.webp\")
Does she have Histrionic Personality Disorder?
A reader and married roommates are troubled by a friend’s intrusive attention toward one spouse and worry about her response to rejection. They ask whether to confront her with a personality-disorder label or withdraw attention.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/help-your-friend-advice-to-make-a-difference-20261003.webp\")
How can I help my friend without making things worse?
I want to support a struggling friend.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/hes-selfish-disrespectful-and-irresponsible-20261003.webp\")
What can I do about his disrespect?
A reader describes a husband’s name-calling, threats, throwing objects, and spending decisions that leave them afraid to raise concerns. They want to know whether the marriage can improve while protecting their child and sense of dignity.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/helping-my-almost-19-year-old-daughter-face-the-real-world-20261003.webp\")
Why is my daughter avoiding responsibility?
A father describes a nearly 19-year-old daughter who left college and struggles to follow through with work or financial responsibilities. He wants to help her move toward adulthood without repeated shouting matches.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Morning](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/hear-voices-uncover-the-reasons-with-expert-advice-20261003.webp\")
Why am I hearing voices?
A reader describes weeks of severe insomnia, hearing things, panic, and fear of losing touch with reality. They have a therapy appointment soon but are unsure whether they can wait.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/heightened-sexual-behavior-in-my-8-yr-old-with-adhd-20261003.webp\")
Is Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) related to heightened sexual behavior?
A parent asks whether an eight-year-old’s inappropriate behavior toward other children is associated with Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). They want to know how to respond and discourage the behavior.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/help-for-dealing-with-a-deranged-father-tips-advice-20261003.webp\")
Can we involuntarily admit a family member in a crisis?
A family describes a father making explicit violent threats with a weapon and later denying the incident. They ask how to obtain urgent help when he is unlikely to consent to treatment.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Friends](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/highly-intelligent-but-socially-handicapped-the-psychology-of-the-nerd-20261003.webp\")
How can I help my socially awkward son?
A parent describes an academically accomplished adult son who wants close relationships but struggles with confidence and unwritten social expectations. They ask what might help him build friendships and find a partner.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/help-me-please-what-is-going-on-with-me-20261003.webp\")
Help me please. What is going on with me?
A parent describes years of stress, isolation, emotional numbness, crying, irritability, and lost interest in intimacy. They care for their family but feel something is wrong and ask for help understanding it.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/26-year-old-virgin-20261003.webp\")
I’m a 26-year-old virgin. How do I stop being socially awkward?
A 26-year-old man feels behind his peers because he has little dating experience and fears emotional and physical closeness. He wonders how to overcome awkwardness, low motivation, and fear of rejection while pursuing a relationship.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/a-very-low-threshold-for-stress-tolerance-20261003.webp\")
Is my low stress tolerance a sign of mental illness?
Everyday stress feels overwhelming.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-boyfriend-has-no-sex-drive-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my boyfriend has no sex drive?
A reader’s boyfriend avoids sexual intimacy with someone he cares about despite being comfortable with casual sex. He is willing to seek therapy, but the reader wonders whether staying in the new relationship makes sense.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"House](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-boyfriend-and-his-adult-daughter-20261003.webp\")
How should I handle issues between my boyfriend and his adult daughter?
A reader’s boyfriend has ended their relationship over conflict involving his adult daughter and grandchildren. Shared property and debts, with no apparent provision for the reader, add financial worries.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Separate](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/mothers-who-sleep-with-their-sons-20261003.webp\")
Why do some mothers sleep with their sons?
A reader is concerned about a mother sharing a bed with her adult and younger sons, while stating that they do not believe sexual activity is occurring. They question the family’s boundaries.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/most-likely-gay-husband-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I suspect my husband is gay?
A reader’s husband has repeatedly had affairs with men despite promises to stop. They are considering divorce but worry about the effect on their two children.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Hands](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/morbid-jealousy-20261003.webp\")
Do I have morbid jealousy?
A reader with bipolar disorder and a history of therapy wants help controlling persistent jealousy after leaving an abusive marriage. They partly blame their own behavior for the abuse.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/missing-my-ex-boyfriend-terribly-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I’m missing my ex-boyfriend terribly?
A reader is grieving a short but intense relationship that ended after becoming long distance. An ex-boyfriend’s lack of contact leaves them feeling confused, rejected, and isolated.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/middle-aged-female-never-in-love-20261003.webp\")
Is it normal to be middle-aged and never have been in love?
A middle-aged reader has never had a satisfying romantic relationship and feels anxious around men they find attractive. They wonder whether early family experiences still affect their prospects for love.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/lying-cheating-husband-20261003.webp\")
What should I do about my lying, cheating husband?
A reader believed counseling had helped a marriage recover from an affair, but discovers continued contact and financial support for the other person. They fear confronting the deception may lead to separation.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/love-but-different-religions-20261003.webp\")
Can love survive if we have different religions?
A Muslim reader is attracted to a Catholic woman and cannot stop thinking about her. They ask what to do about the religious difference.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/loss-of-patience-20261003.webp\")
Why am I experiencing a loss of patience?
A reader is easily irritated and quickly loses patience, damaging relationships with family and a boyfriend. They ask whether medication could help and what might explain the change.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/losing-personality-wholness-20261003.webp\")
Why do I feel like I’m losing my personality wholeness?
A reader reports six months of concentration problems, unwanted memories, a changed sense of identity, and fear in public places. Previous psychiatric consultations have not provided an explanation.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/long-distance-college-relationship-20261003.webp\")
Can my high school relationship survive college?
A reader feels anxious and conflicted about whether a high school relationship can survive college. Their feelings alternate between closeness, doubt, and panic as the transition approaches.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Hands](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/liar-and-kleptomaniac-20261003.webp\")
How do I deal with someone who is a liar and a kleptomaniac?
A reader describes repeated lying and stealing that have damaged friendships and led to arrest. Despite wanting to stop, they do not know how to find professional help.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Friends](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/jealous-of-her-male-friends-20261003.webp\")
Why am I so jealous of her male friends?
After two recent breakups, a reader feels threatened by a new girlfriend’s male friendships despite her openness and efforts to include them. They want to manage jealousy without losing the relationship.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/jealous-girlfriend-20261003.webp\")
How do I deal with a jealous girlfriend?
A reader wants to preserve a relationship despite a girlfriend’s intense jealousy, accusations, and monitoring of messages and location. Constant reassurance has not resolved the conflict.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/is-there-something-wrong-with-me-20261003.webp\")
What’s wrong with me?
A reader describes self-injury, eating-related difficulties, compulsive patterns, and dangerous impulsive behavior despite often feeling happy. They want to know whether these experiences indicate a mental health problem.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Plain](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/religious-wife-is-conflicted-over-husbands-desire-for-anal-play-20261003.webp\")
How should I handle my husband’s request for anal play?
A woman experiences guilt and conflict between religious beliefs and her husband’s preferences in their consensual sexual relationship. She describes affection and openness between them but feels unsure how to reconcile her own values and comfort.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/relationship-with-my-bipolar-and-adhd-girlfriend-20261003.webp\")
How can I support my girlfriend who has bipolar?
A person wants to better support a girlfriend who is being reassessed for medication and may have bipolar disorder and Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). They are learning about the conditions and hope to build a lasting relationship.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/relationship-between-dissociation-did-and-ptsd-20261003.webp\")
How are dissociation, DID, and Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) connected?
A person newly in therapy for Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) wonders whether changes in their voice, posture, and conversation while dissociated mean they have DID. They want to better understand the relationship between these terms.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/regular-thoughts-of-killing-myself-20261003.webp\")
How can I cope with regular suicidal thoughts?
A working parent describes increasingly persistent suicidal thoughts while struggling to manage home responsibilities. They fear that seeking treatment will threaten their job and professional license and wonder whether lifestyle measures should be enough.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Blue](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/ptsd-vs-did-20261003.webp\")
What’s the difference between Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and DID?
A person diagnosed with Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) describes internal voices and changes in their sense of identity and control. They ask whether these experiences point to DID or can occur with PTSD.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/ptsd-since-childhood-with-no-memory-of-trauma-20261003.webp\")
Can you have Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) since childhood with no memory of trauma?
A young woman tentatively diagnosed with Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) reports longstanding symptoms but cannot identify a clear traumatic event. She asks whether the diagnosis could be mistaken or whether experiences might affect her without being remembered.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/ptsd-and-night-terrors-20261003.webp\")
How are Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and night terrors connected?
A person diagnosed with Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and major depression asks about frequent nighttime terrors and ways to settle them. They want to understand the connection between sleep disturbances and trauma.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/psychotic-ex-boyfriend-20261003.webp\")
How do I deal with a psychotic ex-boyfriend?
A woman remains in contact with an ex-partner who has a history of threats, violence, substance use, and continuing delusional accusations despite treatment. She asks whether recovery is possible and how to end contact without escalating the situation.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/prozac-for-ocd-20261003.webp\")
How effective is Prozac for Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)?
A person’s Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) symptoms returned after stopping Prozac, and they are anxious about whether restarting it at changing doses will help. They want reassurance and guidance about a treatment that previously worked well.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Glasses](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/prolonged-unemployment-of-husband-20261003.webp\")
What should I do about my husband’s prolonged unemployment?
A woman feels exhausted by more than four years of her husband’s unemployment, his resistance to available jobs, and ongoing financial demands while she faces serious health costs. She wonders whether to keep working on the marriage or leave.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/potentially-suicidal-boyfriend-20261003.webp\")
How do I cope with my boyfriend’s depression?
A woman worries that her boyfriend has depression and a past suicide attempt but avoids discussing it. Having lost a friend to suicide, she fears that raising the subject will seem intrusive even though she wants to help.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"White](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/postponed-wedding-day-20261003.webp\")
How do I cope with a postponed wedding day?
A woman is devastated when her fiancé postpones their wedding two weeks beforehand, citing arguments and a need for counseling. She is also concerned about his habit of sharing private disputes with his parents.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/pocd-20261003.webp\")
What helps with POCD?
A woman with a history of depression, panic, and childhood mistreatment is distressed by unwanted thoughts about harming children despite reporting no attraction to them. A counselor has suggested Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), and she fears these thoughts rule out having a family.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Blue](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/please-explain-how-it-is-that-psychopaths-can-manipulate-people-if-they-have-no-empathy-20261003.webp\")
How can psychopaths manipulate people if they lack empathy?
A person asks how someone thought to have psychopathic traits can anticipate and manipulate others’ emotions while seeming to lack empathy. Their experience has also raised questions about the emotions such a person can genuinely feel.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/pathological-lying-20261003.webp\")
What is pathological lying?
A parent describes an adult son’s longstanding lying, anger when challenged, excessive spending, and relationship problems. The family wants him to accept psychiatric help despite his denial that anything is wrong.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/paranoid-depression-20261003.webp\")
What is paranoid depression?
A person is concerned about a relative with depression who has become suspicious of doctors and stopped medication and appointments. Earlier improvement has disappeared, and the family wants to know how to help.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Fresh](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/lack-of-personal-hygiene-20261003.webp\")
How should I handle someone’s lack of personal hygiene?
A parent is worried about a nineteen-year-old daughter’s marked decline in bathing and her defensive reaction when it is mentioned. They ask whether this could be depression or an adolescent phase.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-17123.webp\")
What are the first steps to overcoming paranoia?
A person describes a brother’s worsening belief that unseen people are targeting him with noises and energy waves. Arguments and attempts to move away have not helped, and the whole family is distressed.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/our-23-year-old-son-refuses-to-get-help-for-his-anxiety-attacks-and-depression-20261003.webp\")
Why does our son refuse treatment for his anxiety and depression?
Parents are worried about a 23-year-old son whose anxiety and depression have disrupted college and work. Living far away, he refuses their efforts to arrange help and may not be taking prescribed medication consistently.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Hands](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/ocd-no-feeling-20261003.webp\")
Does Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) cause me to feel no emotions?
A 25-year-old person says treatment has improved their Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) but they still feel emotionally detached and unable to experience pleasure or affection naturally. They wonder whether this is related to OCD or medication.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/obsessive-strange-thoughts-about-life-and-existentialism-20261003.webp\")
How can I cope with obsessive thoughts about life and existentialism?
A person under prolonged stress describes frightening thoughts about existence and language, episodes of disorientation, and fear around sleep while taking psychiatric medication. They want to understand what might be happening.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/nonexistent-lover-20261003.webp\")
Why do I keep dreaming about a nonexistent lover?
A person describes feeling in love with an imagined companion while maintaining friendships and daily life. They wonder whether the fantasy is healthy and whether it keeps them from relationships with real people.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/no-romance-after-baby-20261003.webp\")
Why is there no romance after having a baby?
A woman feels rejected after her long-term partner stops offering affection following the birth of their second child. She describes feeling like a roommate rather than a romantic partner.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Adults](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/never-had-a-boyfriend-20261003.webp\")
Why have I never had a boyfriend?
A 21-year-old woman has never had a boyfriend and is puzzled by attention that seems limited to sex rather than dating. She wants companionship without lowering her expectations for a relationship.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Adults](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/never-been-in-a-serious-relationship-20261003.webp\")
Why can't I find a serious relationship?
A 23-year-old woman who has never had a serious relationship worries that being introverted makes her unlovable. She describes repeatedly being drawn to unavailable men and not developing feelings for those who show interest.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/nervous-about-nudity-20261003.webp\")
How can I overcome being nervous about nudity?
A newly married woman feels uncomfortable being seen undressed and says her husband takes her modesty personally. Their differing expectations have left her feeling pressured and disrespected despite previously discussing her sensitivities.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/narcissistic-stepfather-20261003.webp\")
How do I deal with a narcissistic stepfather?
A university student left home after being physically mistreated by a stepfather and remains frightened by his continuing attempts at contact. They are considering a restraining order while worrying about the impact on their mother.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-younger-brother-is-having-spells-of-rage-20261003.webp\")
How can I help my younger brother who has spells of rage?
A sister is concerned about her 20-year-old brother’s longstanding episodes of rage, recent property damage, substance use, and the safety of his girlfriend and baby. She has arranged a psychiatric appointment and wants further options for help.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-wifes-past-20261003.webp\")
How should I deal with my wife’s past?
A man raised with strict beliefs about premarital sex feels distressed by his wife’s earlier relationships many years into their marriage. Repeated questions about her past are now straining their connection.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-therapist-doesnt-like-me-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I feel like my therapist doesn’t like me?
A person worries that their therapist is bored and cannot genuinely care about them despite verbal reassurance. These doubts are making it harder to continue attending sessions.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-snoring-is-pushing-him-away-20261003.webp\")
Is my snoring pushing him away?
A woman feels hurt after her husband moves to a separate bedroom because of her snoring. Although a medical appointment is planned, the sleeping arrangement has deepened concerns about an already distant marriage.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/what-is-the-true-meaning-of-being-defensive-20261003.webp\")
What is the true meaning of being defensive?
A couple asks what being defensive means in conversation. They wonder whether denying fault, justifying behavior or countering criticism by blaming the other person are examples.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Morning](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/what-is-the-point-of-life-20261003.webp\")
What is the point of life?
A student reports worsening depression despite antidepressants and counseling, feeling bullied and uncared for, and thoughts of suicide. They doubt that further help can work and describe death as an escape from their pain.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/should-i-leave-my-husband-20261003.webp\")
Should I leave my husband?
A woman in a long marriage feels lonely and emotionally unsupported, and an affair with a married coworker has intensified her doubts. She asks whether unmet emotional needs justify leaving and worries about being alone if the other relationship does not last.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/should-i-be-hopeful-that-he-will-change-his-mind-about-divorce-20261003.webp\")
Should I be hopeful that he will change his mind about divorce?
A newly married woman is shocked by her husband's sudden request for divorce and refusal to try counseling. After moving out, she wonders whether giving him space could change his mind or whether she should begin moving on.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Adults](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/self-acceptance-20261003.webp\")
How can I learn self-acceptance?
A woman in a loving long-term relationship feels insecure, jealous of her partner’s support network, and fearful of being left. She worries that relying so heavily on her partner is weakening the relationship.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/seeing-a-married-man-20261003.webp\")
Is it wrong that I’m seeing a married man?
A woman wants to end a year-long relationship with a married man after waiting for him and receiving demeaning accusations. She asks how to remain firm when her feelings for him make it difficult to leave.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/security-clearance-and-depression-20261003.webp\"){kind=spacer}
Will depression affect my chances of getting security clearance?
A government contractor receiving treatment to prevent a recurrence of depression is worried that the condition will lead to denial of a required security clearance. They ask whether responsible use of prescribed medication will count against them.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Smooth](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/scary-thoughts-dark-feelings-help-20261003.webp\")
How can I cope with scary thoughts and dark feelings?
A young man describes evening unease, a frightening episode of feeling ungrounded, and unwanted thoughts about harming himself or loved ones. He is distressed by the thoughts and fears they mean he is losing touch with reality.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/scared-he-will-leave-me-20261003.webp\")
Why am I so afraid he will leave me?
After a difficult marriage and divorce, a woman is falling in love with a new partner but fears that expressing it will drive him away. She also wonders whether she has allowed enough time to grieve the earlier relationship.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/will-my-boyfriend-eventually-hit-me-20261003.webp\")
Will my boyfriend eventually hit me?
A woman describes ongoing verbal abuse and an incident in which her boyfriend tried to punch her, which she blocked. She fears future violence and asks whether she should end the relationship.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/will-i-ever-feel-normal-20261003.webp\")
Will I ever feel normal?
A woman describes long-standing low self-worth, an abusive first marriage and emotional numbness years after her husband's suicide. Although now remarried and receiving psychiatric care, she struggles to connect with others and asks whether recovery is possible.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/wife-of-21-years-has-a-boyfriend-20261003.webp\")
Why does my wife of 21 years have a boyfriend?
A man is grieving after his wife of twenty-one years moves out and begins another relationship. He wonders whether her recent losses and life changes explain it and whether he should continue hoping for reconciliation.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/why-is-he-so-jealous-even-of-my-own-brothers-20261003.webp\")
Why is he so jealous?
A woman is frightened by a new boyfriend's controlling jealousy, including accusations involving her brothers. Having recently left an abusive long relationship, she worries about repeating the same pattern and asks whether to continue.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/why-does-my-wifes-old-boyfriend-bother-me-20261003.webp\")
Why does my wife’s old boyfriend bother me?
A man in a loving marriage feels persistent jealousy and loses sleep over his wife's daily correspondence with a former boyfriend. She offers to stop if he asks, but he worries that doing so would feel controlling.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/why-does-my-boyfriends-ex-girlfriend-have-to-be-so-involved-in-his-life-20261003.webp\")
Why does my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend have to be so involved in his life?
A woman feels hidden and excluded because her long-term boyfriend has not told his child's mother about their relationship. She respects his commitment to his son but is hurt by his continued family activities with his former partner.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/why-do-men-not-find-me-attractive-20261003.webp\")
Why do men not find me attractive?
A twenty-seven-year-old woman prefers men to initiate dates but says the only person who showed interest was abusive. She asks why others do not seem interested and whether she is doing something wrong.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/why-do-i-like-being-abused-20261003.webp\")
Why do I feel like I like being abused?
An engaged woman feels bored by stability and drawn toward risky or harmful experiences, while describing jealousy and past emotional abuse in her relationship. She feels ashamed and asks what these patterns mean and how to understand them.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Gentle](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/why-do-i-feel-like-everyone-is-trying-to-upset-me-20261003.webp\")
Why do I feel like everyone is trying to upset me?
A reader has recurring one- or two-week periods of intense upset, anger and feeling ignored every few months. They recognize that others may not be trying to hurt them but worry about their reactions and ask what could be happening.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/why-cant-i-get-gross-images-out-of-my-head-20261003.webp\")
Why can’t I get gross images out of my head?
A fifty-two-year-old woman experiences persistent anxiety and revulsion after seeing or hearing disturbing descriptions. She wonders whether menopause, insomnia or medication for migraines and sleep may be contributing to this new sensitivity.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/when-there-is-someone-who-is-better-looking-than-me-i-feel-inadequate-20261003.webp\")
Why do I feel inadequate?
A reader with a history of abuse describes feeling worthless when comparing their appearance with others and briefly superior when putting people down. They want to stop chasing perfection and develop purpose, self-acceptance and healthier relationships.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/what-treatments-are-available-after-you-ve-tried-the-medicines-of-last-resort-20261003.webp\")
What options remain after last-resort medications?
A reader has severe recurring depression, suicidal thoughts, job loss and difficulty paying for medication or psychiatric care. They worry that a treatment described as a last resort has failed and ask whether other options remain.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/what-should-i-do-with-my-19-year-old-daughters-anger-issue-20261003.webp\")
What should I do about my 19-year-old daughter’s anger issues?
A parent feels intimidated by a nineteen-year-old daughter's escalating shouting and angry outbursts after she left college and stopped working. They ask where to begin and worry that the behavior could lead to serious consequences.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/terrified-i-ll-do-something-sexually-inappropriate-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I’m terrified I’ll do something sexually inappropriate?
A sixteen-year-old with anxiety and depression fears she might touch someone inappropriately despite having no wish to do so. Shame and fear prevent her from describing these concerns to her doctor or psychologist.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/sweet-but-aloof-boyfriend-20261003.webp\")
How should I handle a sweet but aloof boyfriend?
A woman feels impatient with her caring but laid-back boyfriend and sometimes directs stress or irritation toward him. She wonders whether differing temperaments, unspoken boundaries or menstrual changes contribute to the pattern.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/strange-sexual-fantasies-20261003.webp\")
Are strange sexual fantasies normal?
An eighteen-year-old woman is concerned about increasingly dominant sexual fantasies involving herself as the person harmed. She asks why these fantasies feel arousing and expresses worry about their meaning and influence on her relationships.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/stalking-learn-how-to-protect-yourself-regain-control-20261003.webp\")
How can I protect myself from stalking and regain control?
A woman reports persistent unwanted visits and religiously focused harassment despite police intervention and an arrest. She feels frightened and asks how dangerous the situation may be and what can help her regain safety.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/spousal-abuse-and-borderline-personality-disorder-20261003.webp\")
How does borderline personality disorder affect spousal abuse?
A man describes repeated physical and verbal abuse by his wife, an order of protection and a later decision to seek divorce. He feels guilty about the consequences for her and asks about abuse experienced by men.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/spitting-behavior-20261003.webp\")
What causes spitting behavior?
A parent describes a six-year-old's repeated spitting, fear of germs, sensations of wet clothing and insistence on locked doors. They ask whether these behaviors could be Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and which professional should assess him.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/solve-your-problems-quickly-4-ways-to-identify-fix-them-20261003.webp\")
How can you solve and fix your problems quickly?
A reader asks how to monitor mental health without becoming excessively worried about possible disorders. They wonder whether symptoms are always obvious and when professional help or feedback from others becomes important.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-13517.webp\")
How can I get help for my smoking fetish?
A woman is comfortable with her husband's smoking fetish but feels unwanted when he uses fetish websites despite their active sex life. She asks how to manage the anger and rejection she experiences when discussing it has not changed the situation.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Fresh](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/slobby-husband-20261003.webp\")
How do I deal with a slobby husband?
A woman says her husband's poor hygiene and public habits have reduced her attraction to him despite loving his other qualities. She asks whether her concerns are reasonable and how to communicate the changes she needs.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/should-i-stay-with-my-girlfriend-of-4-years-20261003.webp\")
Should I stay with my girlfriend of 4 years?
A college student describes frequent arguments and accusations of jealousy during a four-year relationship. He feels they bring out the worst in each other and asks whether ending it is fair, especially because his girlfriend lives with his family.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/should-i-stay-with-a-lying-husband-20261003.webp\")
Should I stay with a lying husband?
After 35 years of marriage, a woman discovers that her husband concealed repeated meetings with an ex-girlfriend. She describes feeling hurt by his secrecy and asks how to get him to discuss its impact.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-to-prevent-any-relapse-into-pornography-20261003.webp\")
How can I prevent relapse into pornography?
A 29-year-old in a satisfying relationship repeatedly returns to online pornography despite filters and a wish to stop. Thoughts of searching trigger marked physical anxiety and ongoing digestive discomfort.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/it-seems-like-i-have-to-choose-between-my-husband-and-my-son-20261003.webp\")
How do I handle having to choose between my husband and my son?
A parent feels pressured to choose between a husband and teenage son after physical conflict at home. Heavy drinking, three children, and financial worries complicate any decision about leaving.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/extreme-psychopathy-sociopathy-20261003.webp\")
Why do I hear voices and feel no emotion?
A reader describes emotional numbness, isolation, voices urging violence, harm to animals, and fear of losing control. They ask for help resisting dangerous urges.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-have-always-believed-someone-was-watching-me-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I always feel like someone is watching me?
A 19-year-old describes years of feeling watched or followed, internal conversations, and perceptions of people in shadows. Recent heart surgery and upcoming college plans add uncertainty about whether to tell someone.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Three](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-have-a-hard-time-making-friends-with-other-guys-20261003.webp\")
Why do I have such a hard time making friends with other guys?
A man links difficulty making male friends to childhood exclusion and interests that differ from those common in his community. He also finds it difficult to move from friendship toward romantic relationships.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-have-a-crush-on-my-husbands-friend-20261003.webp\")
How do I handle having a crush on my husband’s friend?
A married person remains preoccupied with a crush on a man who has become the husband's friend. The marriage involves frequent conflict, and the husband's encouragement to disclose the crush adds confusion.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-feel-ugly-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I feel ugly?
A parent says their nearly seven-year-old daughter feels unattractive despite otherwise seeming happy. The child reports no triggering incident, and the parent asks how to help her feel better about herself.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-feel-like-he-wont-ever-love-me-like-he-loves-her-20261003.webp\")
How can I stop feeling like he loves her more?
A graduate student compares herself obsessively with her boyfriend's first love after learning how painful that breakup was for him. Despite improved commitment, she worries she will never measure up and is unsure whether to leave.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-dont-really-care-about-anything-what-should-i-do-20261003.webp\")
Why do I feel like I don’t care about anything?
A 17-year-old describes low energy, frequent sleep, and a troubling sense that nothing matters. She wants to feel more motivated but finds it difficult to begin activities that might help.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-dont-know-who-my-true-self-is-20261003.webp\")
Why don’t I know who my true self is?
A 19-year-old worries that his identity changes to match fictional characters or the people around him. He relies heavily on appearance, fears relationships, and asks whether a more stable sense of self can develop.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-dont-care-for-anything-i-feel-as-though-im-wasting-my-life-20261003.webp\")
Why do I feel like I’m wasting my life?
An 18-year-old college student has stopped attending classes and exercising after losing motivation. Friends and games provide temporary relief, but he feels directionless and worries he is wasting his life.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-become-very-hostile-towards-myself-20261003.webp\")
Why do I become so hostile toward myself?
An 18-year-old reports episodes of intense self-directed anger and self-injury but has hidden them out of shame. He asks whether the behavior warrants help or is something he has fabricated.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/hypothyroid-23-year-old-girl-20261003.webp\")
How does hypothyroidism affect a 23-year-old girl?
A 23-year-old nursing student with hypothyroidism struggles with focus, memory, and confidence in coursework despite feeling capable elsewhere. She wonders whether she lacks ability and asks about help with concentration.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/husbands-weight-problem-20261003.webp\")
How can I help my husband with his weight problem?
A wife feels embarrassed by her husband's weight and recognizes that her reactions echo childhood prejudice in her family. Repeated attempts to change him have increased strain, and she asks how to address the marriage.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/husbands-secretary-too-close-20261003.webp\")
Is my husband’s secretary too close to him?
A wife feels excluded by the amount of time her husband spends with his secretary, including lunches and after-hours events. She asks whether wanting protected time together is unreasonable.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/husband-wants-a-divorce-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my husband wants a divorce?
A wife feels devastated after her husband requests a divorce and refuses counseling or other attempts to repair the marriage. She asks how to respond as he removes his wedding ring and prepares to leave.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/husband-jealous-of-my-friends-and-family-20261003.webp\")
Why does my husband get jealous of my friends and family?
A wife describes intermittent conflict when her husband says her contact with friends and relatives leaves him competing for attention. She values those relationships and feels confused despite spending substantial time together.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/husband-and-daughter-20261003.webp\")
Is my husband’s playfulness with our daughter inappropriate?
A parent is alarmed after their husband frightened their 19-year-old daughter by intruding on her privacy during previously normalized physical horseplay. They ask how to respond and whether to remove him from the home.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-to-show-appreciation-reap-the-rewards-20261003.webp\")
How can I show appreciation and reap the rewards?
A 20-year-old reports brief episodes in which their sense of self seems to fade and then return. They worry that the symptoms may be untreatable or disrupt their future.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Shoes](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-do-i-keep-my-conduct-disordered-step-son-from-molesting-my-children-20261003.webp\")
What should I do to stop my stepson from molesting my kids?
A parent describes serious harm to young children by an older stepsibling and disagreement with their spouse about keeping the children apart. They fear future contact, including during possible visitation, and ask about protection and legal options.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-do-i-help-my-4-year-old-son-show-compasion-20261003.webp\")
How do I encourage compassion in my 4-year-old son?
A parent worries that their four-year-old son laughs when others are hurt and shows little compassion or remorse. They ask what this behavior means and how to respond.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-do-i-forgive-and-forget-when-my-husband-abandoned-me-20261003.webp\")
How can I forgive my husband for abandoning me?
A recently married person with periods of incapacitating illness feels hurt and unsafe after their husband left them without care. Although he has apologized, they struggle to forgive, fear another abandonment, and experience growing conflict.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Family](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/is-my-sister-a-pathological-liar-20261003.webp\")
Could my sister be a pathological liar?
A reader reports a sister’s changing behavior after divorce and believes she is lying about family matters. They also question a disclosure of childhood abuse and worry about her relationship with her teenage daughter.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-does-he-just-have-sex-anxiety-20261003.webp\")
Does my boyfriend have sex anxiety, or is he gay?
A reader’s boyfriend has withdrawn from sexual intimacy as their emotional relationship has deepened. His past relationships and visible anxiety leave the reader unsure whether the issue concerns orientation, intimacy, or something else.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/is-male-interest-in-pornography-normal-20261003.webp\")
Is male interest in pornography normal?
A reader is uncomfortable with a fiancé’s hidden pornography use and wonders whether the interest is normal or a warning about marriage. They describe the rest of the relationship as ordinary.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/is-it-possible-to-stop-being-an-attention-seeker-20261003.webp\")
How do I stop being such an attention seeker?
A reader asks whether someone can change behavior that draws attention through deception or self-injury. It is unclear whether they are asking about themselves or another person.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/is-it-okay-to-be-a-masochist-20261003.webp\")
Is it wrong to be a masochist?
A reader asks whether identifying as a masochist is wrong and wonders how their family might react. They state that they do not engage in acts that cause permanent physical damage.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/adult-son-interferes-with-our-relationship-20261003.webp\")
Why does it feel like I’m competing with his son?
A woman feels overlooked after moving in with a partner who remains very close to his adult son. Frequent calls and their shared work routine make her feel excluded from the relationship.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/am-i-really-that-messed-up-20261003.webp\")
I need support, where do I start?
A woman describes long-standing mood difficulties, anger, numbness, and increasing thoughts of suicide while feeling judged by people around her. Cost concerns have kept her from seeking care.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Adult](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/desperate-for-help-discover-solutions-with-jims-advice-20261003.webp\")
What can I do when my suicidal son can’t stop abusing drugs?
A parent describes an adult son’s long history of substance use, repeated treatment episodes, and suicidal thoughts. The family fears for his survival and asks about intensive care they might be able to afford.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/checking-out-20261003.webp\")
What causes someone to mentally check-out?
A reader describes a family member mentally checking out during stressful situations and later having little memory of what occurred. The reader wants to identify suitable professional support.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-can-i-overcome-my-debilitating-shyness-and-fear-of-life-20261003.webp\")
How can I overcome my debilitating shyness and fear of life?
A 21-year-old university student describes persistent shyness, loneliness, low self-esteem, and fear of everyday social situations. Self-help books have not relieved their difficulties, and they feel ashamed of struggling despite a comfortable life.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-can-i-forgive-my-husband-to-save-our-marriage-20261003.webp\")
How can I forgive my husband to save our marriage?
A separated reader wants to repair a marriage after repeated infidelity and years of conflict. A husband has stopped drinking and attended counseling, but anger and hurt remain difficult to release.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Gentle](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-can-i-cope-with-what-seems-unbearable-pain-of-loss-upon-death-of-my-husband-20261003.webp\")
How can I cope with the unbearable loss of my husband?
A reader grieving a husband after more than 40 years together describes profound despair, loneliness, and thoughts of ending their life. They ask how to cope with a loss that feels impossible to bear.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-can-i-control-morbid-jealousy-20261003.webp\")
How can I control morbid jealousy?
A reader describes around 30 years of intense jealousy that now threatens a long marriage. They ask for help bringing the pattern under control.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-ve-lost-interest-in-sex-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I’ve lost interest in sex?
A person married for five years lost interest in sex about a year earlier, and medication has not helped. Their husband is understanding, but they worry about how long that patience will last.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-think-my-husband-hates-me-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I think my husband hates me?
A parent describes repeated verbal cruelty and threats from a husband who drinks heavily, while hoping treatment might restore the marriage. They ask whether to begin therapy independently or wait for him to stop drinking.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-think-my-husband-has-sex-and-intimacy-issues-20261003.webp\")
Does my husband have sex and intimacy issues?
A person describes a supportive marriage outside the bedroom but persistent frustration with sexual communication and intimacy. Their husband becomes angry when concerns arise, and they ask how to improve the situation.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-refuse-how-to-overcome-your-inner-resistance-to-change-20261003.webp\")
What meds can treat depression without weight gain?
A person believes they have a mood disorder but hesitates to seek treatment because they fear lithium-related weight gain. They ask for the name of an alternative medication before seeing a doctor.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-never-feel-enough-affection-from-my-boyfriend-am-i-obsessing-20261003.webp\")
Am I obsessing over the lack of affection?
A person in a close relationship feels distressed by limited time with their boyfriend because both work two jobs. A painful previous breakup has heightened fears of losing him, even though they recognize his work demands.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-never-experience-happiness-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I can’t experience happiness?
A person describes a lifelong absence of happiness and worries that a neurological condition must explain it. They feel they are merely existing and want an answer that goes beyond outwardly appearing well.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Three](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-like-men-and-women-20261003.webp\")
What does it mean if I’m attracted to men and women?
A 20-year-old male college student is attracted to both men and women and fears losing friends if he is gay. The uncertainty is affecting his grades and willingness to socialize.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-have-to-imagine-im-a-sex-victim-20261003.webp\")
Why do I have to imagine I’m a sex victim?
A person in a loving relationship feels distressed by unwanted sexual fantasies involving victimization and finds intimacy difficult without them. They report no real-life history of sexual victimization and ask why this is happening.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-have-ptsd-and-i-feel-nothing-20261003.webp\")
Is it normal to feel nothing when you have Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)?
After discovering a partner's death by suicide, a person reports emotional numbness and impulsive behavior that feel unlike their earlier self. They ask whether these changes may follow trauma and whether feelings can return.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-have-ocd-will-this-increase-my-childs-chance-of-developing-autism-20261003.webp\")
Does my Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) increase the risk of my child developing autism?
A prospective parent with Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) asks whether their child could inherit OCD or face an increased chance of autism. They have encountered claims about a connection between autism and parental anxiety online.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/boyfriends-daughters-strange-behavior-20261003.webp\")
Is my boyfriend’s daughter too attached?
A woman worries about her boyfriend’s ten-year-old daughter’s intense attachment after divorce. She feels excluded and asks how the family can develop a healthier balance.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/breaking-up-with-bipolar-20261003.webp\")
Why can’t I walk away from my ex?
A woman has ended an exhausting relationship but continued contact keeps drawing her back into discussion. She wants to end the pattern firmly while managing her own uncertainty.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/can-a-marriage-survive-without-sex-20261003.webp\")
Can our marriage survive without sex?
A woman who has long feared and disliked sex has begun therapy and finally shared her feelings with her supportive husband. She asks whether his reassurance is sincere and whether their marriage can remain strong.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/can-a-psychologist-tell-his-patient-that-he-is-attracted-to-her-20261003.webp\")
Can a psychologist tell his patient that he is attracted to her?
A reader asks whether a psychologist should disclose romantic attraction when a patient also feels attracted. The concern centers on maintaining the purpose and boundaries of therapy.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/can-mental-illness-cause-physical-pain-20261003.webp\")
Can mental illness cause physical pain?
A reader asks whether mental health difficulties can accompany pain, numbness, brief altered responsiveness, and other concerning symptoms. The reader wonders whether a medical condition is more likely.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Hands](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/can-we-contact-my-mothers-doctor-20261003.webp\")
Can I contact my mothers doctor?
A family is worried about a mother’s mood, eating, and behavior despite her composed public appearance. They ask whether to alert her doctor before a scheduled physical.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/can-you-help-me-save-my-relationship-20261003.webp\")
Can you help me save my relationship?
I’m afraid of losing someone I love.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/change-of-heart-after-parents-death-20261003.webp\")
How do I manage feelings for my ex whilst grieving?
A young woman grieving her father’s sudden death feels renewed closeness to an ex while drifting from her current boyfriend. She wants to make a fair decision without confusing grief with lasting romantic feelings.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/coming-to-terms-with-my-own-pathetic-existence-20261003.webp\")
Can our love survive broken trust?
A young woman recovering from anorexia feels insecure after discovering her boyfriend’s romantic messages and concealed pornography use. Renewed food restriction and depression have intensified her worry that she is not enough.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/complicated-grief-has-left-me-feeling-numb-20261003.webp\")
Why has grief made me numb?
After several family deaths and another relative’s terminal illness, a reader feels emotionally numb despite continuing to help. The absence of tears or sadness feels confusing and potentially hurtful to others.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/confusion-from-a-college-long-distance-relationship-20261003.webp\")
Why am I questioning my long-distance relationship?
A college student repeatedly returns to a high-school relationship but feels lonely and uncertain during separation. She wants both the familiar connection and opportunities to discover herself.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Hands](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/constant-counting-disorder-20261003.webp\")
Is my wife's counting a sign of a disorder?
A husband describes his wife’s near-constant counting, accompanied by headaches and depressed mood. He asks what might explain behavior that is increasingly affecting her daily life.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/controlling-disabled-husband-20261003.webp\")
Should I leave my depressed, controlling husband?
A woman feels diminished and isolated by her husband’s controlling behavior after a disabling injury and depression. With financial strain and limited transportation, she wonders whether work and space elsewhere could help.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/cowardly-stepdad-20261003.webp\")
How do I manage my anger towards my step-dad?
A young adult feels angry about a stepfather’s secrecy after leaving the family and starting another relationship. An offer to fund college makes expressing those feelings seem financially risky.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Hands](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/craving-attention-20261003.webp\")
How do I stop needing so much attention?
A woman recognizes a persistent need for attention that leads to arguments, repeated messages, and harmful coping. Insight alone has not helped her stop damaging important relationships.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/crazy-mother-in-law-ruining-our-mental-health-and-relationship-20261003.webp\")
Can our relationship survive his toxic mother?
A woman is exhausted by her boyfriend’s mother’s controlling behavior and his difficulty setting limits. Family crises, financial entanglement, and being deprioritized during recovery have led her to question the relationship’s future.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/dating-mental-health-overcome-the-stigma-find-love-20261003.webp\")
Can I find love when I am afraid of being judged?
A fine-art student living with a mental health condition fears rejection when discussing benefits and personal circumstances on dates. The student wants connection but feels ashamed and unsure how to introduce himself.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Three](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/de-realization-overcome-fear-find-clarity-in-life-20261003.webp\")
How do you save a loved one who refuses to be helped?
A reader describes a brother’s escalating substance use and suicidal threats, alongside the family’s exhaustion and uncertainty about obtaining help. They ask how relatives can respond when someone refuses treatment.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/death-of-both-parents-20261003.webp\")
How do I cope after losing both parents and battling Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)?
A reader lost both parents within two years and describes traumatic caregiving memories, a Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) diagnosis, and persistent suicidal thoughts. They ask for help with grief that feels overwhelming.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/delusional-jealousy-20261003.webp\")
What should I do about my boyfriend’s delusional jealousy?
A reader describes a boyfriend’s increasingly irrational accusations of infidelity, an assault, and threats of self-harm. They feel frightened and exhausted and want to understand the behavior.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Hands](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/delusions-and-false-memories-20261003.webp\")
How do you know if a memory is real or a delusion?
A reader with past methamphetamine use and ongoing paranoia describes a troubling memory that changes when recalled. They ask whether a strongly held delusion can feel like a real memory.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/dependent-husband-20261003.webp\")
How can I encourage my husband to take more responsibility?
A reader wants to share household decisions and finances with a husband who struggles with responsibility and receives treatment for panic disorder. Encouragement often feels controlling to him, and further couples therapy is currently unaffordable.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/depressed-anxious-and-dead-inside-please-help-20261003.webp\")
Feeling depressed and isolated. How do I move forward?
A young woman describes being housebound, emotionally numb, and isolated despite months of therapy. She wants to build a more meaningful life after experiences of abuse but does not know where to begin.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Hands](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/dissociative-events-20261003.webp\")
What is happening when I dissociate?
A reader describes increasingly frequent periods of lost time during which they apparently work, talk, and drive normally. They ask how familiar activities can continue without a memory of them afterward.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/does-my-boyfriend-have-feelings-for-his-ex-wife-20261003.webp\")
Does my boyfriend have feelings for his ex wife?
A reader worries that a boyfriend’s retained holiday photographs and contact with an ex-wife mean he still wants the previous relationship. They are planning a home and family together but fear being hurt again.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/dominating-mother-20261003.webp\")
How do I break free from my dominating mother?
A 38-year-old reader describes feeling controlled by a healthy elderly mother who shares a small apartment with them. They want to pursue relationships and personal goals without being overwhelmed by guilt.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/drinking-and-blacking-out-20261003.webp\")
Why do I black out after just a few drinks?
A reader describes increasingly serious alcohol-related blackouts and destructive behavior, despite not identifying as having a drinking problem. They ask whether the episodes have a physical or psychological cause and how to prevent them.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/does-my-husband-love-his-daughter-more-than-me-his-wife-20261003.webp\")
Am I competing with my stepdaughter?
A reader feels neglected because a husband devotes much of his time to a teenage daughter’s sports activities. They want more couple time and a healthier balance within their blended family.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/false-memories-20261003.webp\")
Could I have done something horrible without remembering?
A reader with Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) fears that a vivid mental image proves they harmed someone and forgot it. They ask how to distinguish a real event from doubt-driven thoughts or a possible dissociative memory gap.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/everyone-says-he-is-depressed-is-he-or-does-he-really-want-a-divorce-20261003.webp\")
Why does he want to divorce me?
A reader is shocked after a husband suddenly leaves a long marriage and refuses counseling despite saying he still loves them. They wonder whether depression explains his decision and whether the marriage can be saved.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/engaged-to-be-married-but-fighting-the-wedding-date-has-been-canceled-20261003.webp\")
How do we fix our relationship?
An engaged couple has postponed their wedding because frequent arguments leave both partners feeling unwanted. A reader describes tension between emotional connection and sexual expectations and asks what they can do next.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/elderly-histrionic-mother-20261003.webp\")
How can I better support my histrionic mother?
An adult child is helping elderly parents while a father has terminal cancer and worries about a mother’s future care and vulnerability. They ask how to bridge difficult personality differences and plan a safer living situation.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/eating-disorder-or-overreacting-20261003.webp\")
Do I have an eating disorder?
A young adult whose depression has improved in treatment describes recent restriction, purging, and guilt about eating. They worry that seeking specialist eating-disorder support may be dismissed because little weight has changed.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/fear-of-choking-20261003.webp\")
Is there a way to stop my choking anxiety?
A reader with longstanding anxiety describes a fear of choking that has progressively restricted eating to liquids. They distrust mental health professionals but want treatment that can help the fear stop dominating daily life.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/feeling-fragile-20261003.webp\")
Why am I so fragile?
A reader feels close to tears after even mildly rude or condescending comments and is finding work increasingly difficult. They ask where the sensitivity might come from and how to regain balance.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/frequently-snapping-over-little-things-20261003.webp\")
Why do I snap over little things?
A reader repeatedly snaps at a spouse and coworkers over small frustrations and regrets the resulting arguments. They recognize patterns learned from parents and want to create a calmer home for their child.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/5-year-old-behavior-is-it-adhd-or-bipolar-or-both-20261003.webp\")
Is my 5 year old showing signs of Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or Bipolar Disorder?
A parent asks whether a five-year-old’s intermittent disruptive behavior at school could indicate Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or bipolar disorder. Testing is planned, but stretches of calmer behavior have left the parent uncertain.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Books](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/what-is-your-theoretical-perspective-20261003.webp\")
What is your theoretical perspective?
A graduate psychology student asks Dr. Dombeck which theoretical perspective informs his work. They appreciate the site's breadth and want to understand the orientation underlying its explanations.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Blue](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/resentment-controlling-wife-passive-agressive-husband-20261003.webp\")
How do I deal with my passive-aggressive husband?
A woman describes a longstanding marital standoff involving money, silent treatment, resentment, and different wishes about children. Her husband refuses counseling, and she wants to know whether anything besides divorce might help.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/am-i-crazy-answers-to-dispel-your-doubts-20261003.webp\")
Could my mental health get worse if I don’t get help?
A teenager feels persistently irritable and sometimes depressed, but a parent dismisses the request for therapy as attitude. The teenager asks how to obtain support and communicate the concern.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/does-a-therapist-have-to-report-me-as-suicidal-if-i-tell-her-i-self-injure-20261003.webp\")
Does a therapist have to report self-injury as suicidal?
A reader with a history of self-injury wants therapy but fears that disclosure could lead to hospitalization despite no current suicidal plans. They ask how therapists distinguish self-injury from suicide risk and explain confidentiality.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-cannot-continue-to-live-without-affection-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I can’t continue without affection?
A person in a long marriage describes persistent lack of affection alongside a history of verbal mistreatment. Although the husband has recently become less angry, they remain unsure whether meaningful change is possible or whether to leave.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/living-in-fear-of-the-next-outburst-20261003.webp\")
How do I stop living in fear of the next outburst?
A reader fears a husband’s controlling behavior and angry outbursts may become physical violence. He refuses counseling, and they ask whether leaving is necessary even though parts of the marriage feel good.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/holding-throat-20261003.webp\")
Is holding a partner's throat during sex about control?
A reader wonders whether a partner placing a hand around their neck during intimacy indicates a need for control. They have tolerated the behavior but are uncertain about their own comfort and boundaries.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Blankets](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-girlfriends-family-is-ruining-our-relationship-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my girlfriend’s family is destroying our relationship?
A reader feels a girlfriend’s family relies on her excessively and interferes in their relationship. They see her becoming distressed at home but defensive when they raise concerns.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/best-way-to-deal-with-verbal-abuse-20261003.webp\")
How do I stand up to my husbands verbal abuse?
A married woman describes years of belittling and verbal abuse that are affecting her mood and family life. She asks how to obtain respect without escalating repeated arguments.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-have-everything-i-ever-wanted-why-am-i-so-miserable-20261003.webp\")
I got everything I wanted. Why do I still feel miserable?
An adult with family, career, and social support feels persistently unhappy and disengaged. They describe always solving other people's problems at the expense of personal goals and difficulty asserting their needs.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/what-are-some-coping-skills-for-paranoia-20261003.webp\")
What are some effective coping skills for dealing with paranoia?
A reader in therapy for paranoia worries that neighbors are deliberately sending smoke into their home, while part of them doubts that interpretation. Panic and reactive comments are increasing, and they ask for coping strategies.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/should-i-ask-for-closure-4-months-after-a-break-up-20261003.webp\")
Is it okay to ask for closure months after a breakup?
A woman continues to miss a former partner months after their breakup over his parents’ opposition and religious differences. She wonders whether asking him for closure would help her move on or undermine her dignity.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/library/editorial-10344.webp\")
Why did my fiancée leave me over past porn use?
A reader is grieving after a fiancée left because she discovered a lie about past pornography use. They feel ashamed and want to understand their behavior and how to live with the loss.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/sadistic-sexual-fantasies-erotica-20261003.webp\")
Is it a concern that I get aroused by fictional sadistic fantasies?
A young adult man feels ashamed and anxious about past interest in fictional erotic material with coercive themes, while reporting no wish or action to harm anyone. He wonders what those reactions mean and how they might affect future relationships.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/cant-trust-anymore-20261003.webp\")
How can I overcome my past and trust my partner?
A reader’s previous breakup has made promises in a loving new relationship difficult to believe. The current partner has given no reason for doubt, but fear of another loss is affecting their connection.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-do-i-cope-with-a-parent-who-is-trying-to-ruin-me-20261003.webp\")
How do I cope with a parent who is trying to ruin me?
An adult child describes a mother's longstanding hostility, financial manipulation, and rumors after a renewed relationship deteriorated. They want to protect their own family life but remain preoccupied with past injustices and thoughts of revenge.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-can-i-help-a-grieving-sister-who-is-angry-with-me-20261003.webp\")
How can I help a grieving sister who is angry with me?
After helping with a brother-in-law’s funeral, a reader feels hurt by a grieving sister’s coldness and wonders whether they should have done more. They ask how to offer support without knowing what the sister needs.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Three](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/father-is-abusing-and-controlling-my-mother-20261003.webp\")
How can I help my mother if my father is abusing her?
An adult daughter describes years of violence, coercion, and financial control by a father toward a mother. She asks how to help while protecting her own spouse and young child from the situation’s effects.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-miss-my-daughter-20261003.webp\")
What should I do when I miss my daughter so much?
A parent feels estranged from an adult daughter after family trauma, conflict, and the daughter's close involvement with another household. They miss the former relationship and fear that expressing hurt will drive her farther away.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"White](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-love-her-but-i-want-that-spark-back-20261003.webp\")
How do I get the spark back when I still love her?
A person still loves and feels attracted to their girlfriend but misses the excitement of early dating. Frequent arguments and growing annoyance have led them to wonder whether they are falling out of love.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-dont-like-to-eat-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I don’t like to eat?
A 26-year-old truck driver eats very little, is markedly underweight, and reports a past seizure and a recent near-fainting episode while driving. Eating feels like a chore, and he asks which professional to consult.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-cant-tell-a-lie-20261003.webp\")
Why can’t I tell a lie?
An adult who lost both parents in a childhood car accident connects the tragedy to a lie about medication. Decades later, they find themselves unable to knowingly lie and ask whether this has a clinical name or treatment.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-cant-control-my-mind-anymore-do-i-need-to-leave-20261003.webp\")
Do I need to leave my environment?
A 21-year-old living abroad describes severe emotional shifts, self-harm, impulsive relationships, and unusual beliefs after a traumatic childhood. Language and financial barriers make care difficult, and they ask whether to return to England for treatment.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/i-am-a-beautiful-girl-so-why-is-my-boyfriend-selfish-in-bed-20261003.webp\")
Why won’t my boyfriend be less selfish in bed?
A person feels used and humiliated by their boyfriend's one-sided sexual behavior despite having explained their needs. They wonder why this continues and whether his bipolar diagnosis or their appearance explains it.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/how-to-help-my-grieving-mother-20261003.webp\")
How can I help my grieving mother?
A daughter living with bipolar II disorder and Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) feels increasingly depleted while supporting her recently widowed mother. She and her sister provide frequent visits and calls, but their mother's intense loneliness and refusal of outside help leave them feeling guilty and overwhelmed.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/is-my-boyfriend-suffering-from-some-kind-of-sexual-problem-or-is-he-lazy-in-sex-20261003.webp\")
Does my boyfriend have a sexual issue, or is he simply lazy in bed?
A reader feels dissatisfied with a boyfriend’s limited intimacy, lack of compliments, and refusal to share household tasks. They want clarity about whether there is a medical issue or an unequal relationship.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/is-it-ok-to-give-my-therapist-a-gift-20261003.webp\")
Would it be appropriate to give my therapist a gift?
A reader wants to give a handmade quilt to a long-term therapist who has provided free sessions for two years. They ask whether a gift is an appropriate way to express gratitude.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/is-it-inappropriate-to-call-my-daughter-20261003.webp\")
Is it wrong to call my daughter sweetie or other pet names?
A father’s new wife objects to him calling his teenage daughter “sweetie,” although he has used the name since childhood. He wants to understand whether the term is inappropriate and how to protect both his marriage and his relationship with his daughter.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Relaxed](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/intrusive-thoughts-20261003.webp\")
What should I do about intrusive thoughts?
A reader with diagnosed Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and bipolar II describes frightening, involuntary thoughts and images about being harmed. They ask why these thoughts occur in the context of a history of childhood abuse.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/intrusive-humiliating-memories-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if intrusive humiliating memories won’t go away?
A reader repeatedly recalls embarrassing experiences after ordinary daily reminders and feels the old shame again. The memories have become distracting, though they have not yet disrupted work or home life.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/insanely-jealous-husband-20261003.webp\")
How do I cope with a husband who is insanely jealous?
A reader describes a husband whose jealousy and accusations of infidelity have intensified during unemployment. With two young children and frequent work travel, they want to know how to address the strain on their marriage.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/indecisive-20261003.webp\")
Why am I so indecisive?
A reader describes lifelong difficulty making both everyday and major decisions, alongside anxiety. They have recently begun psychological care and medication and wonder whether indecision has a diagnostic name.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/inability-to-express-myself-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I can’t express myself?
A person experiencing depression and suicidal feelings hesitates to try therapy because they struggle to express themselves verbally. They also fear that feeling different would betray their true identity.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/im-scared-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I’m scared?
A parent is frightened by persistent intrusive thoughts about their own death and the deaths of loved ones. The thoughts are difficult to stop and interfere with their wish to be present for their children.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/im-overemotional-whats-wrong-with-me-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I’m overemotional?
A 21-year-old has improved their anger control but now cries with happiness and fears losing loved ones. They worry that strong feelings mean something is wrong even as their relationships improve.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Three](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/im-his-2nd-wife-am-i-destined-to-play-second-fiddle-to-his-daughter-forever-20261003.webp\")
As his second wife, will I always play second fiddle to his daughter?
A wife feels sidelined whenever her husband's now-adult daughter visits and remains hurt by a missed milestone birthday. She asks whether being his second wife means she must always receive less consideration.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/im-going-crazy-20261003.webp\")
Why do I feel like I’m going crazy?
A 26-year-old describes anger, panic, changing energy, health fears, and fear of medication after childhood trauma and past substance use. She asks what might explain the difficulties while acknowledging that an online diagnosis is not possible.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/im-cheated-by-my-girlfriend-i-just-want-to-die-20261003.webp\")
What should I do after being cheated on by my girlfriend?
A person is deeply distressed after discovering that a partner had concealed an ongoing marriage. Although the partner now professes love, the reader feels unable to end contact and reports thoughts of wanting to die.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/im-always-attracted-to-men-who-dont-want-me-what-can-i-do-20261003.webp\")
How can I stop being attracted to men who don’t want me?
A 49-year-old gay man feels lonely because he is consistently attracted to younger adult men who rarely reciprocate. He asks whether his narrow preferences can change and whether a fulfilling relationship is possible.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Hands](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/im-a-homebody-20261003.webp\")
Why am I such a homebody?
A homemaker enjoys limited socializing and time at home, but a longtime friend's constant plans and calls feel intrusive. She worries that setting limits makes her seem unfriendly and asks whether something is wrong with her.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-ocpd-husband-cant-tolerate-my-flaws-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my OCPD husband can’t tolerate my flaws?
A newly married woman describes her husband’s difficulty tolerating her habits and his increasing distance after they moved in together. She wonders whether making their home perfect or remaining herself would help alongside couples therapy.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-needy-son-hates-my-boyfriend-how-can-i-avoid-choosing-one-over-the-other-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my needy son hates my boyfriend?
A divorced mother feels caught between supporting her adult son after significant losses and maintaining a relationship with a boyfriend who dislikes his overnight visits. She wants to meet her son’s needs without allowing the conflict to decide her personal life.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-little-girl-nurturing-a-healthy-and-happy-relationship-20261003.webp\")
How do I raise my little girl in a healthy, happy relationship?
A parent is concerned about an 11-year-old daughter’s changes at school and home, including reports of seeing and hearing a figure who gives violent instructions. A family history of schizophrenia and an online test have increased the parent’s worry.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-husband-wont-touch-me-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my husband won’t touch me?
A reader misses a husband’s earlier affection and sexual interest and wonders whether job stress could explain the change. Repeated conversations have not helped, and he is reluctant to seek counseling.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-husband-wont-take-his-medicine-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my husband won’t take his medicine?
A reader is worried that a husband has stopped prescribed immunosuppressant medication after a liver transplant. He insists he no longer needs it, and they wonder whether other motives are involved.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-husband-is-too-affectionate-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my husband is too affectionate?
A reader feels increasingly stifled by a husband’s constant affection, although they love him and once welcomed the attention. Previous conversations have led only to brief changes.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-girlfriend-wants-to-stop-being-critical-but-doesnt-know-how-20261003.webp\")
How can I support my girlfriend in learning not to be so critical?
A reader wants to help a girlfriend who regrets snapping and being critical but says she cannot stop. They hope to address the pattern themselves before seeking professional help.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-girlfriend-and-i-have-been-having-intercourse-for-over-2-1-2-years-and-she-has-yet-to-orgasm-20261003.webp\")
How can I help my girlfriend orgasm after 2 ½ years together?
A reader wants to support a girlfriend who has never experienced orgasm despite efforts together and on her own. They wonder whether a sexual disorder label applies and where to find help.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-fiancee-cant-get-over-his-late-wife-20261003.webp\")
Will my fiancé ever move on from his late wife?
A reader engaged to a widower feels unsettled by a painting tied to his late wife and the prospect of displaying it in their future home. They want to know whether their reaction is reasonable.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-ex-husband-tells-me-he-wants-to-be-with-me-again-but-wont-move-out-of-his-girlfriends-house-20261003.webp\")
Why does my ex-husband say he wants me but stay with his girlfriend?
A reader’s ex-husband says he wants to reunite but continues living with the woman involved in the affair that ended their marriage. Even an offer to move back with the reader and their son has not changed this.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-depressed-husband-wont-sleep-with-me-what-should-i-do-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my depressed husband won’t sleep with me?
A reader is supporting a husband with depression but feels distressed by the long absence of sexual intimacy. They are afraid that explaining their loneliness will worsen his condition.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Morning](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-dead-mother-haunts-my-dreams-20261003.webp\")
Why does my dead mother haunt my dreams?
After caring for a mother for many years, a reader has recurring dreams in which she is alive and still demands care. They feel resentment alongside love and prefer not to seek counseling locally.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-boyfriends-children-wont-accept-me-20261003.webp\")
Why won’t my boyfriend’s children accept me?
A reader and their young daughter feel excluded from a boyfriend’s life because his adult children dictate when they can visit. They describe resentment and little meaningful time together after years of trying.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-boyfriend-saved-pictures-of-his-ex-girlfriend-on-his-computer-20261003.webp\")
Why does my boyfriend still have pictures of his ex-girlfriend?
A reader finds recently saved photos of a boyfriend’s ex on his computer and feels uneasy about his secrecy. They acknowledge having crossed a privacy boundary and want to discuss what they found.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-boyfriend-is-a-sociopath-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my boyfriend is a sociopath?
A reader’s boyfriend calls himself a sociopath and proposes restarting their relationship with him in control. They feel conflicted because they love him but want an equal partnership.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/mental-illness-vs-insanity-20261003.webp\")
What’s the difference between mental illness and insanity?
A reader asks how the terms mental illness and insanity differ. The question seeks a general distinction rather than an assessment of a particular person.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/lingering-feelings-for-my-old-affair-partner-20261003.webp\")
Why do I still have lingering feelings for my old affair partner?
A reader still misses an affair partner two years after the relationship ended. They have stayed married and kept the affair secret, but want help with the lingering feelings.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/lack-of-social-skills-20261003.webp\")
What causes a lack of social skills?
A reader can give presentations but struggles with casual conversation and attributes this to limited opportunities for self-expression while growing up. They ask where to learn more spontaneous social skills.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/not-ready-for-commitment-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I’m not ready for commitment?
A woman is distressed after a partner who has experienced a difficult marriage pulls back when she expresses love. He continues occasional contact but offers no clear commitment, leaving her unsure how long to wait.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/no-compassion-for-depression-20261003.webp\")
Why do people show no compassion for depression?
A woman resents her husband’s depression because she feels compelled to take over responsibilities and finds their moods strongly affect one another. She wants to understand why compassion feels difficult despite their closeness.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Friends](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/never-had-a-relationship-20261003.webp\")
Why am I so shy and scared of rejection?
I’m shy and afraid of rejection.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-wife-wants-me-to-leave-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my wife wants me to leave?
A husband describes financial difficulties, treatment for his own spending problems, and a wife who alternates between reunion, separation, and divorce. He loves his family but feels hurt and confused by her changing wishes.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-wife-and-her-sister-20261003.webp\")
What should I do about my wife and her sister?
A husband is upset by his wife’s sexual involvement with her sister and by pressure to film it. He says the behavior continues and asks how to respond.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-son-said-he-hears-voices-and-whispers-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my son says he hears voices and whispers?
A parent reports that a seven-year-old son hears voices and whispers that distract him, alongside a history of severe migraines. The parent asks what to do after the child describes the experience.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Family](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/my-schizophrenic-sister-refuses-treatment-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if my schizophrenic sister refuses treatment?
A sibling is worried about a sister diagnosed with schizophrenia who has stopped treatment and is raising three children while experiencing paranoia and hallucinations. The family feels unable to help and also worries about inherited risk.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Five](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/what-is-neuroticism-20261003.webp\")
What is neuroticism?
A reader asks whether neuroticism is a personality disorder. The question seeks a distinction between a commonly used personality term and a clinical diagnosis.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Smooth](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/what-is-a-complex-20261003.webp\")
What is a complex?
A reader asks what a psychological complex means and how it develops. They also want to understand how fears such as abandonment can shape behavior in ways that seem to bring the feared outcome about.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/was-i-sexually-abused-20261003.webp\")
What signs can help me understand if I experienced sexual abuse?
A woman struggles with intimacy, frightening dreams and a history of eating difficulties but has no memory of childhood sexual abuse. She asks whether abuse could have occurred without being remembered and whether her current concerns imply that history.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/unlucky-in-love-20261003.webp\")
Why am I so unlucky in love?
A twenty-nine-year-old man sees a pattern of attraction to ambitious women who do not commit while he may commit quickly. Returning to school after pursuing art, he hopes to meet someone who accepts his present circumstances and future goals.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/unlock-life-success-with-this-essential-advice-what-to-do-20261003.webp\")
What else can help my son stop hearing voices?
A parent says their adult son has lived with mental illness for twelve years and wants relief from hearing voices. He has seen the same psychiatrist for a decade, and the parent asks what other help may be available.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/unhappy-in-an-arranged-marriage-20261003.webp\")
What should I do if I’m unhappy in an arranged marriage?
A mother of three feels unfulfilled in an arranged marriage despite describing her husband as dedicated and caring. After treatment for postnatal depression, she reflects on family pressure and asks how to honor her own needs while keeping the family together.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/unexpressive-partner-20261003.webp\")
How do I deal with an unexpressive partner?
A reader loves a partner who rarely expresses emotion and wonders whether childhood abuse and abandonment contributed to his reserve. They want to understand him and help build greater emotional intimacy.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/uncomfortable-around-my-boyfriend-20261003.webp\")
Why do I feel uncomfortable around my boyfriend?
A reader's close friendship has become romantic, but their partner now makes accusations and shouts when they try to discuss problems. They feel uncomfortable and want to restore the closeness they previously shared.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Three](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/trying-to-save-37-years-of-marriage-with-my-bipolar-husband-20261003.webp\")
How can I save my 37-year marriage with my bipolar husband?
A woman in a 37-year marriage feels overwhelmed by her husband's persistent infidelity accusations after a bipolar diagnosis. His behavior disrupts her sleep and isolates her, and she asks how to protect her own wellbeing while supporting him.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/trying-to-reconnect-with-my-ex-20261003.webp\")
How can I reconnect with my ex?
A father wants to reconcile with his former girlfriend after frequent partying and flirting damaged their relationship. He sees signs of closeness but is confused by her uncertainty and worries about their young daughter's future.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"Two](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/trauma-and-drama-why-are-friends-and-family-rejecting-me-20261003.webp\")
How can I cope with friends and family rejecting me after trauma?
A grieving reader feels rejected by a sister, a former friend and a classmate while receiving treatment for depression and anxiety. They ask whether others see them as weak and how to understand and improve these painful interactions.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"Blue](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/transvestic-fetishism-20261003.webp\")
What is transvestic fetishism?
A woman discovers that her boyfriend sometimes wears feminine clothing for sexual arousal and asks what the behavior means. She is accepting of it but wants to understand whether it implies a change in sexual orientation or gender identity.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/torn-between-two-lovers-and-scared-of-what-i-ll-do-20261003.webp\")
How can I handle being torn between two lovers?
A university student feels drawn to an exciting new acquaintance while still caring for a long-term girlfriend. They fear hurting her or acting unfaithfully and ask whether the attraction means the existing relationship should end.
Answer byAnn Landers
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/too-much-time-doing-homework-20261003.webp\")
Am I spending too much time doing homework?
A student earns strong grades but spends many hours on written assignments, repeatedly rereading questions and striving for perfection. They also struggle with spelling and anxiety and ask whether a learning difficulty could explain the extra effort.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
![\"A](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/therapist-rights-to-contact-employer-20261003.webp\")
Does a therapist have the right to contact my employer?
A former therapy client asks whether a psychologist may contact their employer after receiving an email describing suicidal intent and a specific plan. The question raises both confidentiality and the professional's responsibility to respond to immediate danger.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
![\"An](\"https://mentalhealth-v2.workspace-454808.chatgpt.site/assets/answers/spitting-four-year-old-boy-20261003.webp\")
How do I handle a four-year-old boy who keeps spitting?
A parent is distressed by a four-year-old's spitting and aggressive behavior toward other children, despite several forms of punishment. They wonder how to respond and whether a difficult preschool friendship may be contributing.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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What should I do if I’m scared of hurting him?
A friendship is becoming a romantic relationship, and one person fears hurting the other or committing before they are ready. Their closeness and rapidly growing feelings make the next steps feel uncertain.
Answer byAnn Landers
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Why don’t I care anymore? What’s wrong with me?
A woman feels joyless and unsupported after changing jobs, with new schedules adding strain to her relationship. She describes disappointment in coworkers, friends and family and wonders why she seems to have stopped caring.
Answer byAnn Landers
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Why does obsessional thinking feel like a brain lock?
A woman repeatedly checks photographs and updates about her ex-partner's new relationship despite feeling hurt each time. She wants to understand why she cannot stop, especially because she is now happy with someone else.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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Why does my boyfriend still have photos of his ex?
A reader feels uncomfortable that a boyfriend keeps affectionate photographs from a past relationship. He describes them as memories and says he no longer has feelings for his ex.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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Lonely and depressed. How do I start connecting with others?
A college student describes loneliness, low confidence, and recurring depression despite strong grades. Shyness and difficult roommate relationships have left her avoiding social opportunities and fearing a promising internship.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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How do I overcome my fear of contact?
A reader wants closeness but feels unable to initiate touch or accept hugs comfortably. Shame and negative self-image are beginning to affect relationships.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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What causes anhedonia and how do I fix it?
A reader reports diminished pleasure and emotional numbness after depression, anxiety, and a medication trial. Concerns about caffeine and sexual habits have led to fears of permanent physical damage.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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Does alcohol reveal people's true personality?
A reader describes a husband who becomes verbally abusive and aggressive when drinking and has pursued online sexual contacts. They ask whether intoxicated behavior reveals his true personality and whether the relationship can recover.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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How do you help a parent with mental illness?
An adult child describes a father’s sudden impulsive behavior, estrangement, and refusal of treatment after years of managed depression. The family wants to support their mother and understand whether reconnection is possible.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
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Why doesn’t my boyfriend give gifts?
A woman feels valued in many parts of a long relationship but hurt by her boyfriend’s refusal to give small gifts. She worries the lack of outward affection reflects her own worth or unmet emotional needs.
Answer byAnn Landers
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How do I find balance in a relationship?
A reader has left a much-loved partner because dependence seems to be undermining the relationship. The reader wants to understand how closeness and a separate sense of self can coexist.
Answer byAnn Landers
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Are bipolar sufferers abusive?
A reader asks whether a parent’s bipolar disorder explains emotional and physical abuse. The question seeks clarity about whether a particular mood stage causes abusive behavior.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
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Is my low libido caused by childhood experiences?
A young man wonders whether anxiety about childhood experiences could explain low libido and erectile difficulties now affecting his relationship. He is seeking reassurance and guidance about where to begin.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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How do I manage a complicated love triangle?
A university student has fallen in love with a married man whose previously open relationship is now troubled. Emotional closeness has intensified, and she is torn between preserving the connection and avoiding further hurt.
Answer byAnn Landers
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How do I help a bipolar friend who has lost touch with reality?
A reader is concerned about a friend’s fixed beliefs involving children and a doctor’s family. The reader fears possible harm and feels responsible for obtaining help despite the family’s reluctance.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
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Am I bisexual?
A man in a loving relationship describes intrusive doubts about his sexuality recurring alongside depression. He asks whether unwanted thoughts mean he is bisexual or could reflect an obsessive pattern.
Answer byAnn Landers
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Are my child’s dreams a cause for concern?
A parent is unsettled by a compassionate 10-year-old’s dreams about medieval combat. The child is doing well at home and school and clearly distinguishes dreams from choices he would make.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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How can my boyfriend overcome his anger issues?
A woman is frightened by her boyfriend’s occasional destructive anger despite affectionate periods between outbursts. He has agreed he may need help, and she wants to know how to support change.
Answer byAnn Landers
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How do I stop unwanted, horrible thoughts?
A parent feels ashamed and frightened by unwanted intrusive thoughts that began after an upsetting dream following a child’s birth. The thoughts are unwanted and interfere with previously happy daily life.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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Is my son creating false memories because of trauma?
A parent questions an adult son’s account of childhood abuse amid conflict involving his biological father and stepfather. The son has Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and bipolar diagnoses, and the parent wonders whether memories could have become confused.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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Why has anxiety taken over my life?
Anxiety is taking over my daily life.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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Can I set boundaries with my controlling mother?
A reader grieving a sister feels overwhelmed by an elderly mother’s demands and guilt about enjoying life with a spouse. They ask how to remain compassionate while protecting their own well-being.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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How do I talk to my wife about sex?
A husband loves his wife but feels unfulfilled by their sexual relationship and her discomfort discussing it. He wants a respectful conversation that recognizes their religious backgrounds and avoids pressure.
Answer byAnn Landers
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How could my sister steal my boyfriend?
A woman feels deeply betrayed after housing and financially helping her sister, who then began a relationship with her boyfriend. She asks how to understand the sister’s actions and her family’s repeated support.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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What is my bathroom-related phobia called?
A reader experiences intense distress around bathrooms and related sounds or smells, even in private settings. The reader asks what this aversion might be called.
Answer byMark Vigil Dombeck, Ph.D.
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Why do I keep using drugs when I know it’s a problem?
A college student describes repeated substance use alongside anxiety and depression despite previous rehabilitation. Insight into the problem has not stopped relapse, and new alcohol use and academic difficulties are worrying.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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How are anxiety disorders different to personality disorders?
A parent struggling with anxiety and perfectionism asks how Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) differs from obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. Conflicting descriptions have made the reader uncertain whether a precise diagnosis matters for treatment.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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How can I overcome exhibitionism and save my marriage?
A married man wants to stop longstanding exhibitionistic behavior and compulsive online sexual activity that are damaging his marriage. Previous treatment and financial barriers have left him uncertain how to change.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.
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How do I stand up to my orthodox parents?
A young woman faces severe family opposition to marrying outside her caste, religion, and state. Restrictions, threats, and distress are affecting her career and leaving her torn between her parents and her own choices.
Answer byAnn Landers
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How do I handle a daughter who’s out of control?
A parent feels overwhelmed by an adult daughter’s theft, forged checks, and unstable employment. The family is struggling to set consequences while worrying about whether she could live independently.
Answer byAllan Schwartz, Ph.D.